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I know here people push to RF until the last possible moment, to the limits of the seat. And I know that many members on here are extremely judgmental about people turning their kids one second too soon.
But why does no one ever care about anything but the weight limit on the seat? Why does no one ever care about the entire situation?
I saw a few weeks ago a very well liked poster say that a 28 pound three year old had no business forward facing, and that that was a bad choice on the part of the parents. I was floored. 3 years old? Give me a break. I've seen people call other posters liars when they claim their kid has outgrown a seat, and accuse them of just being anxious to forward face and looking for an excuse. I've seen people be berated and told to buy a bigger seat, even if they don't have the money. I've seen people with severely car sick kids, whose motion sickness and constant vomiting has disappeared when FF, be told that, "I'd rather deal with a puking kid than a dead kid."
What I don't understand is why no one cares about anything other than the weight limit? It's not only detrimental to the message that we're trying to convey (and if I was told that I should just let my kid puke and be miserable instead of doing something to correct it, I'd just leave and write you off as a bunch of lunatics who don't care about kids at all), it's incorrect and unfair.
I know that I got a lot of flak from people here when I turned Charlie around. He was well under the rear facing limits (30-31 pounds at the time), and 23 months old. But there was no safe option for him remaining rear facing. The situation surrounding it was more important than his weight. Rear facing was dangerous for my kid. And I faced a lot of judgment and ridicule when I talked about it, including people accusing me of just wanting to turn him around and looking for any reason to justify it. But I knew that rear facing was harming my kid, period. Forward facing was much better for him. And you know what? He's still under the RF weight limit (by a hair), and I have no intention of turning him around again. Even though the danger that made me turn him in the first place has passed, I don't think it's fair to my kid to turn him around again. And I know that makes me a horrible parent who doesn't care about car safety. Eh, whatever.
But I think people really need to get their heads out of their "33 pounds or death" mode and consider the entire situation. Rear facing to the limits of the child and the situation is more important, and realistic, than rear facing to the limits of the seat. For some kids, that limit is only 14 or 18 months old, for some people it's 4 years. But there are numerous very valid reasons why someone would turn a child before the bottom line stated they absolutely have to. And this board has become more and more hostile to those people, without even caring what kind of message that sends. Because people judging someone for not buying a Radian to get another two inches of RF time because they can't afford it are just as guilty as those turning their kids at 33 pounds. You could buy a foreign seat... and if "that" person's inability to afford it was just an excuse, then so must be yours.
But why does no one ever care about anything but the weight limit on the seat? Why does no one ever care about the entire situation?
I saw a few weeks ago a very well liked poster say that a 28 pound three year old had no business forward facing, and that that was a bad choice on the part of the parents. I was floored. 3 years old? Give me a break. I've seen people call other posters liars when they claim their kid has outgrown a seat, and accuse them of just being anxious to forward face and looking for an excuse. I've seen people be berated and told to buy a bigger seat, even if they don't have the money. I've seen people with severely car sick kids, whose motion sickness and constant vomiting has disappeared when FF, be told that, "I'd rather deal with a puking kid than a dead kid."
What I don't understand is why no one cares about anything other than the weight limit? It's not only detrimental to the message that we're trying to convey (and if I was told that I should just let my kid puke and be miserable instead of doing something to correct it, I'd just leave and write you off as a bunch of lunatics who don't care about kids at all), it's incorrect and unfair.
I know that I got a lot of flak from people here when I turned Charlie around. He was well under the rear facing limits (30-31 pounds at the time), and 23 months old. But there was no safe option for him remaining rear facing. The situation surrounding it was more important than his weight. Rear facing was dangerous for my kid. And I faced a lot of judgment and ridicule when I talked about it, including people accusing me of just wanting to turn him around and looking for any reason to justify it. But I knew that rear facing was harming my kid, period. Forward facing was much better for him. And you know what? He's still under the RF weight limit (by a hair), and I have no intention of turning him around again. Even though the danger that made me turn him in the first place has passed, I don't think it's fair to my kid to turn him around again. And I know that makes me a horrible parent who doesn't care about car safety. Eh, whatever.
But I think people really need to get their heads out of their "33 pounds or death" mode and consider the entire situation. Rear facing to the limits of the child and the situation is more important, and realistic, than rear facing to the limits of the seat. For some kids, that limit is only 14 or 18 months old, for some people it's 4 years. But there are numerous very valid reasons why someone would turn a child before the bottom line stated they absolutely have to. And this board has become more and more hostile to those people, without even caring what kind of message that sends. Because people judging someone for not buying a Radian to get another two inches of RF time because they can't afford it are just as guilty as those turning their kids at 33 pounds. You could buy a foreign seat... and if "that" person's inability to afford it was just an excuse, then so must be yours.