Does anyone else's husband give them a hard time about carseats?

[FrogJuice]

my DH just doesn't like it when I buy new seats, or sell one's we could be using

 

[HKP1042]

I guess I should clarify a little he agrees they need to be in seats but doesn't think ERF and EH is a big deal. For instance he thinks 2 years was plenty to keep ds rear-facing (which would be ok for me if he were so small, he just hit 20 lbs about a month ago at 2). Ds2 is 4.5 and he thinks that is fine for a booster (he sits perfectly in one UNTIL he falls asleep and then he falls forward) so I wanted a seat to keep him harnessed longer.

He doesn't outright refuse anything and i usually get my way but I had the looks and sighs and arguments over it.

 

[macmomma]

My hubby just tell me " whatever makes you happy". I just bought a seat here in the swap section and told him about the good deal I got, he rolled his eyes at me and said " how many seats does this make now"? I "only have 2 Snugrides, one Regent, one EFTA and a Marathon on the way

 

[kandamom]

The only time dh really gave me a hard time was when ds1 was nearing 40 lbs by the time he turned two. At the time (early 2004), spending the money to get a Britax seat was the only option I knew of to keep my son harnessed. He made me talk to local techs and call national safety organizations to get their opinions, since he really didn't want to pay for the Britax seat. Of course, all the experts told me the same thing, and ds1 got a marathon.

Since then, he's been great. It didn't take too much convincing for him to be fine with me purchasing a new seat recently so that our 2-year-old could still be rear-facing. (I told him what the folks here said and what a firefighter I know said, and he was fine with it.) At first, he mentioned the fact that ds1 was fine ff at 12 months. I reminded him that his brother rode in a clothes basket and was fine as well, because they never got into an accident. He got my point.

The other day, I was going somewhere, and I did not have a carseat for ds2 installed in dh's car. We have a turbo booster in our garage, and I just had to ask to be sure he wouldn't put it in the car for ds2 to use. (DS2 is only two, but HUGE, so he would technically fit.) DH was annoyed that I had even asked and acted like I had asked him the most stupid question in the world. I was thrilled to know that he found my question so ridiculous. He's come a long way!

 

[Holly]

Mine rolls his eyes when I talk about seats, what seats other people have, things I've seen, expired seats, misuse or poor practice that I see.
But he doesn't fight me on keeping my kids properly in their seats, and he can put them in correctly. Sometimes their harness is a tad looser than I'd have it, but all in all I think does a great job.
He'd be very annoyed if I was always buying and selling new seats , but I don't plan to do that, my kids will be in their current seats until outgrown or expiration, whichever come first. When they expire or the kids outgrow them, he'll be fine with getting something new.

 

[Wiggles]

My fiancé humours me about the time I spend researching child safety gear, but he thinks I'm a bit insane.

We don't have kids yet and we're not going to for a few years, most likely (we're not financially ready, nor do we feel mature enough to devote the next 20+ years to raising kids yet). So when I get the 'baby bug' I hop online and research things to do with kids to help me feel like I'm taking steps towards having kids. That's how I found car-seat.org. Now, though, I'm interested in the technology and crash dynamics behind the car seats! If I was any good at math, I'd go become an engineer and engineer better car seats because they're fascinating!

I also feel like I should be on top of this stuff because I do babysit sometimes and I have worked/am looking for work as a nanny. He thinks I'm silly because every time a new car seat comes out, I look at what its features and weight limits are, whether it seems like it'd fit in his car, and decide if it's my current dream seat. (Right now, my dream seat is the Radian XTSL) I'm a boy scout, though! The way I figure? It's just being prepared! If we had a kid tomorrow, I'd have ALL our baby gear picked out!

 

[henrietta]

She's always accusing me of flirting with "Suzy Snugfit" and "Sally Saferide".

Well, bigdaddy, that's far better than being accused of flirting w/a $2....

That's really funny!

 

[*Spoiledinmyhouseofblue*]

Mine used too, until I sat him down and made him watch videos and whatnot. Now, he is as paranoid as I am. He used to get upset with me buying and selling seats, but now he understands and says, Whatever makes you happy"! LOL!
He does comment all the time on my daycare kiddos seats in their parents cars, helps his friends at work(lol, which is hysterical because he is in construction and on their lunch breaks he shows them how to install carseats).....

Now, how to explain to him that I have another radian coming Oh yes for my new daycare kiddos starting next week.

He also is impressed by the different quality of seats. He is hooked on radian's right now and can't believe how well built they are(this is the iron worker talking in him).

 

[serabi]

no. but he's a BRU manager. that helps. LOL

 

[disbugsmomma]

I get quite a few eye rolls when I talk about this board, and he calls me a "carseat nazi". But he does know to make sure her harness is tight enough and the chest clip is in the right place. He's also the one who let me buy our two newest seats, both w00t deals. Even though I do all the installs, he can do it if he needs to. And recently he's started telling me about some of the horrible seats and installs that he sees while working. I'll turn him into a complete carseat nut soon enough.

Oh, and the other day I had him read one of the posts on here and he then proceeded to browse the board for a while.

 

[beebear23]

He gets annoyed when I comment on other people's vehicles, but when it comes to our kid, he doesn't question me. He goes along w/whatever I say. He knows he won't win, so it's pretty pointless to try. I know more about it than he does, so I have more clout.

 

[Judi]

No, no hard time. Got like 12 seats, no kids that age. When I told DH I thought I should sell everything, he said no, we do good with them and we need to keep them.

 

[HKP1042]

LOL in defense of my husband he does a mean install. He can get the seats tighter than anyone I know....LOL He just doesn't understand that the kids need the "right seat" and not just a super tight install.

 

[TheNimpsGirl]

He gets annoyed when I comment on other people's vehicles, but when it comes to our kid, he doesn't question me. He goes along w/whatever I say. He knows he won't win, so it's pretty pointless to try. I know more about it than he does, so I have more clout.

This. DH doesn't question anything about DS's seat but is to the point where HE even sees misuse with other people's seats (so he does listen, yay!) and he goes "I don't wanna hear it. The seat is wrong and that kid isn't restrained properly, enough said". LoL.

He does make fun of me for belonging to a board about car seats and says I need a new obsession. He also made fun of me when I was watching the videos coming out of ABC on the blog and called them "car seat porn" specially after listening to the music on the Kiddy one.

But he does a great job with DS. He always does his harness correctly, he knows how to install the base in both cars and he even pointed out he thought DS's harness could be moved up.

 

[Mommyto3kiddos]

Mine doesn't argue with me, but he's never really on board with the spending money on them either. He thinks I could buy a used seat and save a ton of money, but knows for a fact I refuse to do it. I'm the one to install all carseats and pick them out for that matter. He doesn't get why our 4.5 year old son can't just be in a LBB since we have 3 of them. He doesn't understand why expiration dates are important. He's old school they didn't use car seats back then. But like I said he doesn't argue with me anymore and doesn't say anything. HE does know that the or harness needs to fit correctly though. I'm still always double checking behind him.

 

[amjbmommy]

in our house as the saying goes... "if mama ain't happy ain't nobody happy" all kidding aside he's good about it... when he comes home and there's a new carseat box he goes "What carseat did you buy now" , lol. He honestly doesn't mind... and like a pp he does the meanest tightest install I've ever seen :thumbsup:

 

[kidzndogz]

He makes fun of me for being on this board all the time and rolls his eyes when I talk about a new seat. Every time he walks by he has to yell, "Car-seat.org stole my girlfriend!"

But I know he's listening because he'll bring it up some other time and totally shock me.

He helped me fight with the Radian, and he's watched all my videos, although I did have to bribe him with brownies to get him to watch the ERF video because "I just don't see why I need to watch a bunch of little kids in car seats to cheesy music. I already know what's safe."

He points out misuse in others cars sometimes and I found out not that long ago that he tried to talk his sister into ERF her 1 year old.

But that being said, he doesn't really care what seat is in a car. He'd be content with just buying one and keeping it till it's no good. I'm the one that keeps wanting new ones just for fun. He doesn't really get that.

I try to tell him it's a hobby. He says, "Snowboarding is a hobby. Car seats isn't."

 

[HKP1042]

HAHA so I caught DH checking out Nick's new Nautilus today when he thought I wasn't looking...LOL I called him on it and he said "well it is the coolest and nicest carseat we own but I just don't like spending so much money on them". Well no kidding I could ahve found more fun ways to spend the money but you get what you have to get...LOL

 

[2angels2love]

Yes. Sometimes it gets discouraging. He makes comments to the kids, like "Ugh, I can't wait until you're old enough to not need these carseats!" I always tell him to just suck it up because they aren't getting out of them for a long time, LOL! He totally doesn't understand installation or buckling them in properly. I always install them, and he tells me that it's not like we're going to a demolition derby. He would let the kids be out of carseats all together if it wasn't for me, and they are only 3 and 5.

 

[safeinthecar]

My DH is pretty good about it. He thinks I worry too much, but he doesn't care if I buy a new seat (didn't even flinch when I came home Friday night with an Oobr) as long as I'm not wasting money on cheap junk to put the kids in. He's fine with cheap junk for teaching purposes, and fine when I buy a $200 Start, Britax, or Clek, but was annoyed when I bought a $12 Cosco Highrise because "it's a cheap piece of crap that the kids aren't comfortable in" and told me to find something better (was waiting for the Oobr!) to put them in. He does use seats properly, although he will avoid installing if at all possible.

On the other hand, I don't spend a bunch of $$$ on seats we don't need or will only use for 6 months and put a lot of thought into buying the right seat the first time around. The Oobr is most likely the last seat I'll be buying unless I have more children.