steph_s
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My niece just had her baby yesterday (5lbs 6oz 19in long) and while I was there I brought up her new infant carrier that I HATE but she bought it anyways. It has those stupid rear adjusters and they really stick! Anyways I thought she "got it" when it came to car seats. She asked me to put the base in her car since she was so hugely pregnant and asked me to show her how to install just the seat in the vehicle and how to use the locking clip, ect. We talked about ERF, how to tighten the straps, why coats are a no no, ect. car seat basics....
Well today I get up there and he's so tiny I wanted to make sure he actually fit in the seat. I couldn't get the straps tight enough so I told her she is going to have to use my keyfit for awhile until he gains a bit more weight and the straps are able to be tightened more. She tells me "it's ok once he's in his snow suit (as she motions towards the stupid thing hanging in the closet next to the bed) the straps will be tight right". :thumbsdown: I reminded her about the dangers of coats in the car, why they are a bad idea, blah blah. She informs me that "there is no way she is taking him outside without that snow suit on he will get too cold" I explained that blankets tucked around him would be better because he will feel like he's swaddled which newborns like and that those blankets will keep him warm and safe! Yeah she rolled her eyes at me and said "whatever". Then the baby's dad's family jumped down my throat because "that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard do you want to catch pneumonia". It was a HUGE mess and in the end I had 2 sets of grandparents, mom, dad, and a few cousins yelling at me about how "stupid" I am blah blah.
She was sooo angry with dad's family for buying this big bulky snow suit for the baby and about how unsafe it was. Now suddenly since the baby is there it's perfectly ok to have this snow suit because it isn't as bulky. Nevermind that it's thick enough and it won't fit the baby anyways because it's a 0-3 months size and he's barely fitting in preemie clothes!
What should I do?? I don't want him unsafe! My family already thinks I'm nuts about car seats and frankly it's getting VERY frustrating trying to keep all the kids safe. I see the seats installed wrong and I'll get into the cars and tighten them, adjust the straps, ect. but the next time I see them it's a mess again.
Well today I get up there and he's so tiny I wanted to make sure he actually fit in the seat. I couldn't get the straps tight enough so I told her she is going to have to use my keyfit for awhile until he gains a bit more weight and the straps are able to be tightened more. She tells me "it's ok once he's in his snow suit (as she motions towards the stupid thing hanging in the closet next to the bed) the straps will be tight right". :thumbsdown: I reminded her about the dangers of coats in the car, why they are a bad idea, blah blah. She informs me that "there is no way she is taking him outside without that snow suit on he will get too cold" I explained that blankets tucked around him would be better because he will feel like he's swaddled which newborns like and that those blankets will keep him warm and safe! Yeah she rolled her eyes at me and said "whatever". Then the baby's dad's family jumped down my throat because "that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard do you want to catch pneumonia". It was a HUGE mess and in the end I had 2 sets of grandparents, mom, dad, and a few cousins yelling at me about how "stupid" I am blah blah.
She was sooo angry with dad's family for buying this big bulky snow suit for the baby and about how unsafe it was. Now suddenly since the baby is there it's perfectly ok to have this snow suit because it isn't as bulky. Nevermind that it's thick enough and it won't fit the baby anyways because it's a 0-3 months size and he's barely fitting in preemie clothes!
What should I do?? I don't want him unsafe! My family already thinks I'm nuts about car seats and frankly it's getting VERY frustrating trying to keep all the kids safe. I see the seats installed wrong and I'll get into the cars and tighten them, adjust the straps, ect. but the next time I see them it's a mess again.