Well, we bought the T & C.
And here's why, for anyone who's interested:
I currently have a '95 Mercury Villager, in decent condition, but beginning to fall apart. It has one sliding door and no top ta's behind the second row. The second row is a bench (so driver outboard and center). I have to use the third row seatbelts in order to top tether any ff'ing carseats in the second row, crawl across the ta's and kids to get other kids in/out, and it's painful for me (and sometimes the kids, too, when I bump their heads! LOL) In addition, the center position of the second row bench, while useable for carseats and not recommended against, really sucks for carseats! The seatbelt is never tight enough, no matter what carseat or who installs it. It *always* loosens, b/c it is pulled across to much blank space (and yes, it's plugged into the extra part at the bottom on the 2 seater bench). And it doesn't really matter if you use a locking clip or not on it--it just doesn't work well. It just doesn't work there. And to beat it all, I'd really like to get pregnant again and have another baby in the near future. I will be high risk and will not be performing any exciting maneuvers to get carseats or kids in/out while pregnant and once a new baby is here, I probably won't be screwing around w/it either (ds 1 was born 11 wks premature by C-sec due to a placental abruption).
So, I'd really like to have something w/2 sliding doors and places for more "normal" useable top ta's.
In favor of the T & C, is that my Dad offered to purchase it for us and repair and sell our Villager (we are broke, dh is in school, and I'm currently SAHM/part time worker), we know the original and only owners personally, 2 sliding doors, 2 captains chairs in the second row, ability to have 4 ta's installed, and it's 2 years newer and needs NO work (and won't need any for quite a while, unless I wreck it).
The seatbelts are definitely Gen 3, but the Captain's chairs ones are located down low, where it's unlikely that anything, but esp a carseat, would come in contact with it, even if it rocked. They are right next to the seat itself and don't really stick up at all, and they are also on a stiff post. Since no carseats will ever be exactly side by side, I'm less concerned about them coming unlatched. B/c of the dual sliding doors and ta's, I will rarely be using the third row bench for carseats, and most of that driving would be at low speeds for just a few miles and no interstate. In addition, I was surprised, but I poked and prodded ALL of them, and I couldn't make them release. I had to push hard and down all the way to get them to release. The previous owners know us well enough to be honest, and they never had a problem w/them coming unlatched in this van. I know that doesn't mean anything, but they certainly don't seem like w/normal use they'll be popping open. (What's funny is that our seatbelts on my Villager are much easier to get open and have been bumped open before by me while installing carseats side by side, b/c the buckle stalks are so long that I twist them 2-3 times even when installing our Britax and the buckle still comes too close to the buckle path.)
Dad paid only $2700 for a "as new as it gets" for a used '97 vehicle w/practically new everything. I looked to see if I could find anything comparable for the same amount of $$$, and it was going to be tough...plus, we would have to buy from someone we don't know, and I HATE that.
At any rate, that was my thought process. I think we'll like it, and hopefully, I'll only have it for 2-3 years at the most. As soon as dh's car is paid off, credit cards are down, we have more income, etc....I'll be able to buy something myself in the $5000 price range that will have more safety features than either the Villager or the T&C and no Gen 3 belts.
Any other thoughts are appreciated. I plan to check further about replacing the belts. I know that my Dad would put in other belts or would have them replaced if I asked him to.
Thanks so much everyone. I know it's not *ideal* but neither is a car that is falling apart. (-: And I love that Villager!!! If it had 2 sliding doors, I could probably deal with it awhile longer...but that's making it really hard and it's falling apart.
henrietta