Here is a pic of my daughter buckled in the way my sister in law buckles her son in. She's been doing it this way for at least a year - it was this time last year when I first noticed. She says that he pushes the chest clip down and won't leave it up. I suggested using a big safety pin or something like that, placed just below where the chest clip goes, on the strap, so that he couldn't push it down, and she smiled and nodded - but I knew she wouldn't do it. We've casually mentioned it a few times, hoping to make a a point, but she just shrugs it off. He won't keep it on right, so she doesn't worry about it. And in fact, now, she just buckles it like this. She tightened the straps so that its not as loose as it would be if he just wiggled his shoulders free - so its tighter around his chest there. I say "tighter" because she never does them tight enough anyway, in my opinion. As an infant, I once lifted him directly out of his infant carrier without moving the straps at all. They didn't even go *over* the shoulders then - she had them angled out, going around, like the bend of the shoulder - as far out as you can go and still call it "shoulder" and not "arm."
This past summer, we went to FL together, and while down there, everyone rode in my van. I buckled him in, properly, a few times and watched in the rearview and he always kept it on. If we were at a light for very long, or going through a drivethrough or something - thats when he started getting restless. But just for riding, he seemed fine. He IS quite the wiggleworm - but so what!? Anyway, once when I saw her buckling him, I asked her to please do it the right way - and chickened out and stated my not wanting to be legally liable if we were in an accident and he got hurt. She sighed and said she would, but that he'd just take it off again anyway.
So - he's 3.5, no more than 30 lbs, and I doubt he's that much. He's 6 weeks younger than my DD and she's 33 lbs. Also - he uses the exact same seat (cosco ventura) and the straps are always horribly twisted - she says they won't stay flat. I've had this seat for nearly 3 yrs and have never had a problem keeping the straps flat. Every once in a while if I've had several car trips where i was in a hurry, sure, i may get a twist - but before it has time to twist again, i fix it. Her's just look like ropes. Here's the pic of how she buckles him: (thats cheese in her mouth LOL)
Any smart-sounding advice on how to explain it to her? She'll likely be very offended that I'd dare mention it - but you know I keep thinking about whats going to happen if they're in an accident. I think I'd rather deal with her being mad at me for the next 50 yrs than lose him. Though if she's mad AND won't consider changing her ways... *sigh* (which is entirely likely)
If anyone has links describing exactly what would happen to a child buckled like this, that would be great too. I could easily forward them to her and say something nice like "I just found these and immediatly thought of you and wanted you to see, so you can keep him safe!" you know, the least confrontational way is best LOL.
This past summer, we went to FL together, and while down there, everyone rode in my van. I buckled him in, properly, a few times and watched in the rearview and he always kept it on. If we were at a light for very long, or going through a drivethrough or something - thats when he started getting restless. But just for riding, he seemed fine. He IS quite the wiggleworm - but so what!? Anyway, once when I saw her buckling him, I asked her to please do it the right way - and chickened out and stated my not wanting to be legally liable if we were in an accident and he got hurt. She sighed and said she would, but that he'd just take it off again anyway.
So - he's 3.5, no more than 30 lbs, and I doubt he's that much. He's 6 weeks younger than my DD and she's 33 lbs. Also - he uses the exact same seat (cosco ventura) and the straps are always horribly twisted - she says they won't stay flat. I've had this seat for nearly 3 yrs and have never had a problem keeping the straps flat. Every once in a while if I've had several car trips where i was in a hurry, sure, i may get a twist - but before it has time to twist again, i fix it. Her's just look like ropes. Here's the pic of how she buckles him: (thats cheese in her mouth LOL)
Any smart-sounding advice on how to explain it to her? She'll likely be very offended that I'd dare mention it - but you know I keep thinking about whats going to happen if they're in an accident. I think I'd rather deal with her being mad at me for the next 50 yrs than lose him. Though if she's mad AND won't consider changing her ways... *sigh* (which is entirely likely)
If anyone has links describing exactly what would happen to a child buckled like this, that would be great too. I could easily forward them to her and say something nice like "I just found these and immediatly thought of you and wanted you to see, so you can keep him safe!" you know, the least confrontational way is best LOL.