My DD is the same age (9/2010 baby) and we were in a similar situation. Long story short... DD started daycare for the first time... and was having huge panic attacks the moment we started walking out the door. I physically could NOT get the child in the RF seat. I mean, like after trying to force her in for 10-15 minutes, I just couldn't do it. And she was hyperventilating, etc. I honestly did get used to her FF, and TBH really enjoyed it and it made a lot of things easier. But, now her panic attacks have stopped (she was FF about 6 weeks), so I turned her back around. I really only turned her b/c I knew I was driving them on a 2 hr long drive, and I really wanted her to sleep. I definitely feel more at peace, but I really do miss the FF. And I'm thinking we may end up turning her for good around 3 (as opposed to DS who I kept RF to 3 yrs, 11 months).
Just wanted to say... I think in your situation, and mine, there are extraneous circumstances that definitely play a role. And we really do have to remember that our children are safe in a carseat... even if we know they're not as safe as they could be. And you can decide later whether to turn back or leave FF... maybe you'll do like me and turn RF for 6 more months or so.