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I have never met anyone IRL that rf's past 1. Most ff well before 1. I have never met anyone that has a 5 or 6 yr old harnessed. I have never met anyone who has a 7 or 8 yr old in a booster.
And what really irks me: People seem offended by my choice not to turn DD ffing yet. They tell me I am harming her. They tell me she will break her legs. They tell me her harness is too tight. They tell me that you can't rf a 'bigger carseat' (RA55)
It doesn't matter what I say to them. It doesn't matter what proof I give or how many links I post on FB. NO ONE understands!
I was recently at a gathering and got DD out of the car and a couple (no kids) said something along the lines of her being too big. I said she will be rfing until she is 3 or 4 at least. They told me "what are you going to do, cut holes in the backseat so she can put her legs through?" GRRR! My kid has knees! Maybe some mutant children suffer from no knees? Kids bend! I'm sitting here in my chair typing this with my legs up in the chair with me. It it more comfortable that way.
DD is 17 mths and 17 lbs so for now I can still use the "she doesn't weigh enough to ff yet" but what about when she does? I have 1 set of friends that have tried and tried to talk me into ffing her. They always ask if she is big enough yet. They KNOW my point of view on it!
So basically my support comes from the internet. No one IRL understands (except DH) No one gets it. Anyone else alone and get pressured to follow main stream 'bad' choices?
And what really irks me: People seem offended by my choice not to turn DD ffing yet. They tell me I am harming her. They tell me she will break her legs. They tell me her harness is too tight. They tell me that you can't rf a 'bigger carseat' (RA55)
It doesn't matter what I say to them. It doesn't matter what proof I give or how many links I post on FB. NO ONE understands!
I was recently at a gathering and got DD out of the car and a couple (no kids) said something along the lines of her being too big. I said she will be rfing until she is 3 or 4 at least. They told me "what are you going to do, cut holes in the backseat so she can put her legs through?" GRRR! My kid has knees! Maybe some mutant children suffer from no knees? Kids bend! I'm sitting here in my chair typing this with my legs up in the chair with me. It it more comfortable that way.
DD is 17 mths and 17 lbs so for now I can still use the "she doesn't weigh enough to ff yet" but what about when she does? I have 1 set of friends that have tried and tried to talk me into ffing her. They always ask if she is big enough yet. They KNOW my point of view on it!
So basically my support comes from the internet. No one IRL understands (except DH) No one gets it. Anyone else alone and get pressured to follow main stream 'bad' choices?