i'm trying to be friends w this girl who's close friends w other friends of mine. they're from finland and going back and forth here and there. she came for a playdate today. the husband left. then later her bil comes to get her w his 5yo. the 5yo is in front seat w shoulder belt behind her back. my friend then puts her 2 and a half yo in the back seat w just a belt, also shoulder belt behind belt. wtf??? I don't know what they have in their main car. I'm havimg dinner w them now and don't know if I should say something. help!