Hi and welcome! I have not installed a Defender myself, so this is just general info that you might be able to use. It may be that the Defender is indeed incompatible.
First, make sure you are tightening from inside the belt path. I don't know how the Defender is set up, so either pull back the cover for access to the belt path, or pull from the opposite side. This will give you better leverage then trying to pull up or out on the outside of the belt path. I've had a seat in my vehicle before that the best way to get the slack out was to install it and get it as tight as I could normally, then step outside the car and grab the shoulder belt and lean my weight back.
If your belt stalks are longer, they may be keeping you from getting it any tighter. You can twist them up to 3 full 360 degree turns to get them down and out of the way.
If you are pushing the bottom the seat back so there's no gap at the bottom and back, then don't do that (not that it's wrong or anything). Try to let the seat settle into where it naturally wants to go. It may be that you can install, then pull the base out a bit, and then finish tightening and it will remain tight.
If your vehicle allows you to recline your seats a click or 2, you might try that as well.