Lemonade
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I got some FR85s and RA55s from Wayfair. I need to install one or the other in IL's car for DN today. I am having trouble deciding which one. This will be long. Fair warning.
DN was 3 in July. He's 37# last we know but could be close to 40# now. He's approx. 39-40" tall. 14.5" torso. Currently rides in a BLVD in his parents' cars. BIL is going through a divorce. Has lived with IL for 5m. IL's are driving to spend 2.5m at their Florida condo in a few days and in Dec. BIL is flying down with DN for a week. Tried talking them into taking a seat on the plane but not happening. So I am installing a seat in IL's car before they go so they can pick up at the airport.
BIL is broke because SIL ran up 30K in CC debt plus other stuff. IL's bought the plane tix and a lot of other stuff (lawyer for BIL). BIL will be fine once he stops letting SIL financially eff him (he continues to pay all her bills and give her spending money, but I digress.) But it will take a while until he's financially good again.
I initially told him I got him a FR85. For $115. He mentioned that IL's might help and I said we could possibly split it. Possibly my kids might ride in it but we have never let IL's drive them yet so if we do in the future it will be extremely limited for safety reasons.
I could actually make some $ on resale on the FR. Whereas I also have some RA55s that cost less and are worth less for resale. I estimate he would get 18m out of the RA55 and it wouldn't probably be as comfy a year from now. But it's less $ that I'm essentially giving BIL and it's lighter and I think easier for ILs to install. The FR, OTOH, would cost me more to gift him but would last him forever. DH and I have been helping BIL out in little ways but since he's not doing anything to remedy his own situation we're getting sick of it (so are IL!) an DH isn't going to be happy about me giving him a seat that I could make $ on. And this is his brother! (He won't be MAD, he'll just be annoyed.)
And I'm not sure, at this point, if IL's are contributing. So I could be only getting maybe half and then there's any resale $ I lose out on. So gifting him a FR could 'cost' me over $110. Whereas the RA55 would maybe 'cost' me $75 at most.
What should I do? I think I know. But please tell me.
DN was 3 in July. He's 37# last we know but could be close to 40# now. He's approx. 39-40" tall. 14.5" torso. Currently rides in a BLVD in his parents' cars. BIL is going through a divorce. Has lived with IL for 5m. IL's are driving to spend 2.5m at their Florida condo in a few days and in Dec. BIL is flying down with DN for a week. Tried talking them into taking a seat on the plane but not happening. So I am installing a seat in IL's car before they go so they can pick up at the airport.
BIL is broke because SIL ran up 30K in CC debt plus other stuff. IL's bought the plane tix and a lot of other stuff (lawyer for BIL). BIL will be fine once he stops letting SIL financially eff him (he continues to pay all her bills and give her spending money, but I digress.) But it will take a while until he's financially good again.
I initially told him I got him a FR85. For $115. He mentioned that IL's might help and I said we could possibly split it. Possibly my kids might ride in it but we have never let IL's drive them yet so if we do in the future it will be extremely limited for safety reasons.
I could actually make some $ on resale on the FR. Whereas I also have some RA55s that cost less and are worth less for resale. I estimate he would get 18m out of the RA55 and it wouldn't probably be as comfy a year from now. But it's less $ that I'm essentially giving BIL and it's lighter and I think easier for ILs to install. The FR, OTOH, would cost me more to gift him but would last him forever. DH and I have been helping BIL out in little ways but since he's not doing anything to remedy his own situation we're getting sick of it (so are IL!) an DH isn't going to be happy about me giving him a seat that I could make $ on. And this is his brother! (He won't be MAD, he'll just be annoyed.)
And I'm not sure, at this point, if IL's are contributing. So I could be only getting maybe half and then there's any resale $ I lose out on. So gifting him a FR could 'cost' me over $110. Whereas the RA55 would maybe 'cost' me $75 at most.
What should I do? I think I know. But please tell me.