What is the best thing to do here? Not wanting to be an annoying nag...but wanting my kids alive.
Husband just isn't very good at putting the kids in their seats (and he really only drives them on weekends, or oldest 3 to church, etc.) The FF 5-year-old is fine and does everything by himself (I taught him and he's great at even adjusting the chest clip; husband checks it's secure). But the others (4, 2 and baby) are rear-facing and I feel it's more of an art to get the straps snugly over their shoulders, not slipping off. The 4-year-old does not have to be RF, of course, but that's our set up right now.
Husband is an computer/engineer type A person, doesn't want a carseat nag every time he drives his kids, which I understand. And I'm always paranoid about a potential crash and kids flying out of seats.
Today he loosened the 2-year-old's straps on his RF Radian, then tightened them but not enough, and had the chest clip too low. He said he had to loosen because child was in a coat. (I use a poncho with him and there is no way husband is going to go through that, and it seems the coat provides better visibility for husband so he can see all the straps at all times, which can't hurt). Now, the coat is a fleece North Face I bought for the carseat, but I'm unhappy with its bulk nonetheless and don't feel it's a great choice without a lot of extra work that hurried husbands just won't do).
I have taught him a lot about all these issues, showed crash tests online, etc. His response is a mildly annoyed, he's fine, he's fine. And I'm thinking, until you get hit and someone goes flying!
Grandma is another person who drives them and she's GREAT! She listened obsessively to everything I taught her and tries her absolute best to take the time to do everything as perfectly as possible, in case the unthinkable happens.
But, obviously husband is going to be driving his kids around all his life. So, hmmm...
Husband just isn't very good at putting the kids in their seats (and he really only drives them on weekends, or oldest 3 to church, etc.) The FF 5-year-old is fine and does everything by himself (I taught him and he's great at even adjusting the chest clip; husband checks it's secure). But the others (4, 2 and baby) are rear-facing and I feel it's more of an art to get the straps snugly over their shoulders, not slipping off. The 4-year-old does not have to be RF, of course, but that's our set up right now.
Husband is an computer/engineer type A person, doesn't want a carseat nag every time he drives his kids, which I understand. And I'm always paranoid about a potential crash and kids flying out of seats.
Today he loosened the 2-year-old's straps on his RF Radian, then tightened them but not enough, and had the chest clip too low. He said he had to loosen because child was in a coat. (I use a poncho with him and there is no way husband is going to go through that, and it seems the coat provides better visibility for husband so he can see all the straps at all times, which can't hurt). Now, the coat is a fleece North Face I bought for the carseat, but I'm unhappy with its bulk nonetheless and don't feel it's a great choice without a lot of extra work that hurried husbands just won't do).
I have taught him a lot about all these issues, showed crash tests online, etc. His response is a mildly annoyed, he's fine, he's fine. And I'm thinking, until you get hit and someone goes flying!
Grandma is another person who drives them and she's GREAT! She listened obsessively to everything I taught her and tries her absolute best to take the time to do everything as perfectly as possible, in case the unthinkable happens.
But, obviously husband is going to be driving his kids around all his life. So, hmmm...