I get what you're saying. I hear you. We all do. Trust me, we all do!
It's just that many of us have been here 5, 7, or more years...some even since the beginning. I've been reading along here since the boards were brand spanking new, even though I didn't join till...IDK...2007 maybe...and we've all had these moments where we wish desperately that everyone got it, that everyone did best practice, where it was all perfect and pretty.
And then we had to step back to real life...and talk to our best friend who's baby daughter is screaming to the point of vomiting, even on 5 minute trips to the store, her mother is crying constantly b/c she can't even leave the house to pick up a few groceries or see another human being, b/c she's calling you on the phone from the side of the Interstate b/c she's now gotten out of the car *right there* so she can nurse the baby back to a semi state of calm and is trying to get up the nerve to complete the 2 hour drive to see her sick grandfather (or get you to meet her and go with her, so she can sit in the back with the baby)...and then baby turns 1 and in a moment of desperation, she turns her around, car seat correctly used and installed, and baby is a smidge better...your friend still has to reach back behind her and hold her daughter's hand on every trip, her shoulder is coming apart, but she can feel human again...and you realize that it's not all black and white.
Sure, that story is really extreme...but it's the story of my best friend and her daughter...who is just a very anxious kid and always has been...and who has major sensitive tummy issues. It's things like this that make you realize that there are cases where, honestly, for the most part, everyone's just doing the best they can. Sure, there are loads of crappy parents who sure could be doing better! Definitely!! But there are so many different situations that call for different solutions. We have to be able to live our lives.
Welcome here! I really hope that you will stay and learn along with the rest of us.
It's just that many of us have been here 5, 7, or more years...some even since the beginning. I've been reading along here since the boards were brand spanking new, even though I didn't join till...IDK...2007 maybe...and we've all had these moments where we wish desperately that everyone got it, that everyone did best practice, where it was all perfect and pretty.
And then we had to step back to real life...and talk to our best friend who's baby daughter is screaming to the point of vomiting, even on 5 minute trips to the store, her mother is crying constantly b/c she can't even leave the house to pick up a few groceries or see another human being, b/c she's calling you on the phone from the side of the Interstate b/c she's now gotten out of the car *right there* so she can nurse the baby back to a semi state of calm and is trying to get up the nerve to complete the 2 hour drive to see her sick grandfather (or get you to meet her and go with her, so she can sit in the back with the baby)...and then baby turns 1 and in a moment of desperation, she turns her around, car seat correctly used and installed, and baby is a smidge better...your friend still has to reach back behind her and hold her daughter's hand on every trip, her shoulder is coming apart, but she can feel human again...and you realize that it's not all black and white.
Sure, that story is really extreme...but it's the story of my best friend and her daughter...who is just a very anxious kid and always has been...and who has major sensitive tummy issues. It's things like this that make you realize that there are cases where, honestly, for the most part, everyone's just doing the best they can. Sure, there are loads of crappy parents who sure could be doing better! Definitely!! But there are so many different situations that call for different solutions. We have to be able to live our lives.
Welcome here! I really hope that you will stay and learn along with the rest of us.