3 year old wwyd ?


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My 3 year old 28.5lb daughter is still rear facing. Until recently when she rode with a friend who was forward facing she never knew there was another way to sit. Now she frequently asks to "see me" meaning she wants to forward face. It's been fairly easy to distract her as we don't drive much and usually only 2 miles or so in town. My husband recently got a new company car and we are driving it over 7 hours for Thanksgiving. Normally she rides in my SUV or our truck which sit up higher. Now when she rides in the car she constantly complains about not being able to see. I'm afraid it's going to be a long trip. Would you feel comfortable turning her for the trip? I'm so torn on what to do and my husband just says to turn her around for the trip, but then I'm nervous about the "what if".


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It's easier to sleep while Rfing, so I would keep her Rfing. I actually turned my oldest back to Rfing for a long trip for that reason. He had gotten turned early to stop the arguments my DH and I were having every time we went somewhere as a family. That's my vote and my reason for it.


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At that age, my son was amenable to safety concerns. If I told him RF was safer, he wanted to be RF.

I did occasionally put him FF for certain drives (wanted him to see some scenery in the Smokies) but if he felt sleepy, he'd beg me to stop and flip his seat back to RF because he found it much more comfortable to sleep that way. I'd also sometimes flip him FF so that he could see the DVD on long trips. But overall, he preferred to be RF and would ask to stay that way for comfort and safety-sake. His seat was simple to flip and reinstall, so it didn't usually bother me to mess about, though I wasn't terribly happy the last time I did it--tons of sleet down my neck that night. Gah.


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My daughter was that age when I gave her a soft lightweight mirror to hold so she could play "spy" in the car.


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Especially for a trip I'd keep her rear facing. Maybe one of you can sit beside her while she's awake. Toys are much easier to hold on to rf too.


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Thanks everyone! Definitely decided to keep her rear facing. I rigged the DVD player on the back headrest so she can watch it normally. Great idea on the mirror! She has one on the back headrest (well normally when the DVD player isn't there), but I will have to stop and get her one to hold. Not much room for me to sit back there unfortunately. The 11 month old and the dog will also be back there. I think she likes the idea of forward facing, but having never done it I have a feeling she would be complaining she wasn't as comfy and want to sit like little brother does. Crossing my fingers for a drama free road trip!


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This won't work if she is newly 3, but if she is headed towards 4, you can tell her that at age 4, you will let her FF. My daughter always does better ifthere is somethign she can look forward to. But it depends on how long you have to go and how well your child grasps time. My son is awful with time, so it doesn't work as well with him, because like, every day he woudlbe " is it my birthday yet?" "No, it's in 3 months." " oh.. so... tomorrow?" "No, THREE MONTHS." etc. lol.

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