zeo2ski
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Need help QUICK!!--toddler/limo update
UPDATE: I'm driving my own DS. I called the groom about it a couple weeks ago and he said it's no problem at all. I also offered at that time to drive the flower girl and asked him to tell her parents that. Last night was the rehearsal dinner and I was talking to the bride (about whether or not I would bring my infant too) and the limo came up and she acknowledged that I was taking DS and I reminded her of my offer to take the flower girl as well and she firmly said the girls parents were bringing her in the limo. They're "hoping the limo people will allow her to ride since she won't have a carseat in there" and if there's a problem then she'll ride in her grandparents' car where there's a carseat.
I'm literally losing sleep over this. It's not my place to say anything more, and I'm totally not comfortable doing so, but I'm going to anyway. I figure I've got 1 hour before I should call, given the day's schedule. I'm at a complete loss her about what to say. I'm in NY state and still trying to decifer the law about whether the limo is legal for no CRs or not. I plan to call the bride since I have no other contact numbers for the fower girl's family. Oh and the bride is assistant director of a child care center and I'm just completely irate about her being perfectly fine with this whole thing.
My plan is to state simply that there is good reason I'm not allowing my DS on the limo and it is that same reason why I'm concerned about the little girl. I will again offer to drive her myself, but the parents, bride, groom and everyone else WANT her in the limo. If there's no way to convince them to send her with me or the grandparents, I will offer to install a seat in the limo for them. I'll have an extra boulevard. However, when checking here about limo laws, I realized there may not be a seat belt in the limo or if so it may not be on any of the forward facing seats.
I don't want to make a big stink and ruin their wedding day, but I will do what I can to protect this child, I'm deeply bothered by this situation. :thumbsdown: Please help me figure out what to do!
My 28 mos old DS will be the ring bearer for my step-BIL's wedding next weekend. His fiance has a niece the same age (flower girl) and she's already mentioned something about having to put the carseats in the limo, so at least I know it won't be a big deal, but I'm still nervous. She said it's like a bus limo, not sure what that means but I'm hoping that means forward facing seats. Now I don't know the rules for limos--are there seat belts?
The question I have is about RFing--he RFs still, and I'm really not ready to see him FF even for one day, especially considering I won't be the one driving. They said it's a short ride anyway and it's essentially just going across a parking lot. So if it were YOUR child and you were a strong believer in ERFing to the limits of the seat (as in I bought a new BLVD because his MA had the 33 lb limit just to get the 2 lbs), would you let him FF for this trip? Or keep him RFing?
And DH will be in the limo too, and I'm supposed to join them but that means letting MIL drive my car with the baby in there, which I'm not sure about.
UPDATE: I'm driving my own DS. I called the groom about it a couple weeks ago and he said it's no problem at all. I also offered at that time to drive the flower girl and asked him to tell her parents that. Last night was the rehearsal dinner and I was talking to the bride (about whether or not I would bring my infant too) and the limo came up and she acknowledged that I was taking DS and I reminded her of my offer to take the flower girl as well and she firmly said the girls parents were bringing her in the limo. They're "hoping the limo people will allow her to ride since she won't have a carseat in there" and if there's a problem then she'll ride in her grandparents' car where there's a carseat.
I'm literally losing sleep over this. It's not my place to say anything more, and I'm totally not comfortable doing so, but I'm going to anyway. I figure I've got 1 hour before I should call, given the day's schedule. I'm at a complete loss her about what to say. I'm in NY state and still trying to decifer the law about whether the limo is legal for no CRs or not. I plan to call the bride since I have no other contact numbers for the fower girl's family. Oh and the bride is assistant director of a child care center and I'm just completely irate about her being perfectly fine with this whole thing.
My plan is to state simply that there is good reason I'm not allowing my DS on the limo and it is that same reason why I'm concerned about the little girl. I will again offer to drive her myself, but the parents, bride, groom and everyone else WANT her in the limo. If there's no way to convince them to send her with me or the grandparents, I will offer to install a seat in the limo for them. I'll have an extra boulevard. However, when checking here about limo laws, I realized there may not be a seat belt in the limo or if so it may not be on any of the forward facing seats.
I don't want to make a big stink and ruin their wedding day, but I will do what I can to protect this child, I'm deeply bothered by this situation. :thumbsdown: Please help me figure out what to do!
My 28 mos old DS will be the ring bearer for my step-BIL's wedding next weekend. His fiance has a niece the same age (flower girl) and she's already mentioned something about having to put the carseats in the limo, so at least I know it won't be a big deal, but I'm still nervous. She said it's like a bus limo, not sure what that means but I'm hoping that means forward facing seats. Now I don't know the rules for limos--are there seat belts?
The question I have is about RFing--he RFs still, and I'm really not ready to see him FF even for one day, especially considering I won't be the one driving. They said it's a short ride anyway and it's essentially just going across a parking lot. So if it were YOUR child and you were a strong believer in ERFing to the limits of the seat (as in I bought a new BLVD because his MA had the 33 lb limit just to get the 2 lbs), would you let him FF for this trip? Or keep him RFing?
And DH will be in the limo too, and I'm supposed to join them but that means letting MIL drive my car with the baby in there, which I'm not sure about.
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