...do i even want it back.
I think my dh aunt has had my nautilus for about 4-5 months.
Auntie came to my house to pick up my boys and take them to the zoo. So I put their seats in her truck & gave her an extra seat (nautli) for a 4yo girl that had been sitting on a pillow & had the shoulder belt behind her back. The girl LOVED it.
When she dropped the boys off I let her keep the seat so the girl could ride the 20 min home safely. I found out later that she keeps the girl ALL the time. Some weekdays, weekends... all the time.
SO I said, cuz I'm nice, that she should hang onto it while she had this girl.
Well.... its 4-5 months later I still haven't gotten my seat back. I have seen it in her truck... she's moved it around a few times though. No idea if its installed right anymore.
(I'm a doormat... otherwise known as a people pleaser... I never stand up for myself and say NO)
Now I am wondering if I even WANT it back.
She is the type of person to tell me that the seat is pristine... that she never did anything to it... because if I can't tell, then it never happened... or because she didn't know she did anything wrong.
Like a spill... and a trip through the washing machine.
or sat in her open, damp, hot/cold garage for a few days/wks cuz she needed her backseat.
or carried it by the harness/tether...
or any other carseat nut/quirky things I'd NEVER do to my seats.
I have 2 boys... 2 & 4yo... 2 Nautili, 2 FPSVD, and 1 Scenera... 2 cars. Only ONE nautilit will install correctly in my car since I have a broken latchplate on one side & have to use a locking clip there. My FPSVD & Scenera are in a closet because DH just doesn't take the kids anywhere. So even though I have 5 seats only 2 of them ever get used.
My 2yo is close to the top slots on the Scenera though... so I'd have to buy another Nautili soon. SO me & DH could have seats for our cars at the same time.
I could GIVE her the suspicious Nautili... and it wouldnt hurt me carseat wise NOW... but dang I hate to give up the 150$ I shelled out for that sweet seat when ds2 is so close to outgrowing the Scenera.
Would you just give it to her.... who knows what has happened to it in that time... or am I being overly paranoid?
I don't WANT to ask her what she did w/ the seat... I don't like her & would rather just not worry about this anymore. I only loaned it to her for the sake of the kid she was driving around on a pillow.
BTW.... I have NO idea when she would give it back either. She hasn't mentioned it in months.
I'm NOT rich. This is a lot of money to us. If I want to go get another carseat dh will NOT stand in my way. He knows how I am when it comes to this and gave up arguing a long time ago.
I just don't feel right putting my kids in one of their own carseat cuz its been loaned out for 5 months and I just dont KNOW what has been done to it.
What would you do?
I think my dh aunt has had my nautilus for about 4-5 months.
Auntie came to my house to pick up my boys and take them to the zoo. So I put their seats in her truck & gave her an extra seat (nautli) for a 4yo girl that had been sitting on a pillow & had the shoulder belt behind her back. The girl LOVED it.
When she dropped the boys off I let her keep the seat so the girl could ride the 20 min home safely. I found out later that she keeps the girl ALL the time. Some weekdays, weekends... all the time.
SO I said, cuz I'm nice, that she should hang onto it while she had this girl.
Well.... its 4-5 months later I still haven't gotten my seat back. I have seen it in her truck... she's moved it around a few times though. No idea if its installed right anymore.
(I'm a doormat... otherwise known as a people pleaser... I never stand up for myself and say NO)
Now I am wondering if I even WANT it back.
She is the type of person to tell me that the seat is pristine... that she never did anything to it... because if I can't tell, then it never happened... or because she didn't know she did anything wrong.
Like a spill... and a trip through the washing machine.
or sat in her open, damp, hot/cold garage for a few days/wks cuz she needed her backseat.
or carried it by the harness/tether...
or any other carseat nut/quirky things I'd NEVER do to my seats.
I have 2 boys... 2 & 4yo... 2 Nautili, 2 FPSVD, and 1 Scenera... 2 cars. Only ONE nautilit will install correctly in my car since I have a broken latchplate on one side & have to use a locking clip there. My FPSVD & Scenera are in a closet because DH just doesn't take the kids anywhere. So even though I have 5 seats only 2 of them ever get used.
My 2yo is close to the top slots on the Scenera though... so I'd have to buy another Nautili soon. SO me & DH could have seats for our cars at the same time.
I could GIVE her the suspicious Nautili... and it wouldnt hurt me carseat wise NOW... but dang I hate to give up the 150$ I shelled out for that sweet seat when ds2 is so close to outgrowing the Scenera.
Would you just give it to her.... who knows what has happened to it in that time... or am I being overly paranoid?
I don't WANT to ask her what she did w/ the seat... I don't like her & would rather just not worry about this anymore. I only loaned it to her for the sake of the kid she was driving around on a pillow.
BTW.... I have NO idea when she would give it back either. She hasn't mentioned it in months.
I'm NOT rich. This is a lot of money to us. If I want to go get another carseat dh will NOT stand in my way. He knows how I am when it comes to this and gave up arguing a long time ago.
I just don't feel right putting my kids in one of their own carseat cuz its been loaned out for 5 months and I just dont KNOW what has been done to it.
What would you do?