mommyto2angelgirls
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Ok so my MIL has our dd sleep over once a week and they usually go out somewhere. Well she refuses to buy her own seat (although my mother did) and its not for lack of money. So i install our nautilus all the time. Well I finally got sick of it she doesn't have locking belts so I have to use the locking clip. So i get the thing in there rock solid I mean its not moving anywhere. I pick up my daughter the next day and the seat (my husband needs it in his truck) but I decided since she never uses the backseat...especially both sides to just leave the locking clip on the belt so its in the right place. All you have to do is but the satbelt though the back of the seat...which I labeled with a sharpie SEAT BELT HERE and buckle it. Easy enough. Well my dh dropped off our daughter the other day and her seat. Well he didn't put it in the car my MIL did. I had no idea so we go to get her last night after a family party and I go to get her seat out of the car. It was so loose I THOUGHT IT WAS UNINSTALLED!!!! The front of the nautilus reached all the way to the back of the passenger seat if you pulled on it. So I looked at the install. She took of the locking clip and suck the seat belt thorough the seat back then buckled it. Didn't pull it tight even by hand...you can tell when you do that I mean the back of the nautlius wasn't even close to the back of the vehicle seat. And put the locking clip on the door side of the carseat (wrong side). Then she hooks the top tether upside down and doesn't even tighten it. It was honestly the worst install I have ever seen. I mentioned it to her and she said it looked fine to her it was too tight the other way she couldn't buckle it. I felt like telling her thats because you have to put your fat ass in the car and push on the seat not just lean in from the passenger side. But I didn't I controlled myself. I was so pissed last night I couldn't even talk to my husband. I plan to today. But what do we do. Obviously she can't install the seat. I made it easy and instead she undid the right thing and did it her own out of lazyness. I should also mention we live all of 2 minutes from her she could have called when she couldn't get it in and I would have gladly gone over and done it. I want to tell her that if she doesn't buy a seat to keep in her car so I know it's in right she can't take dd. Does that seem unfair I mean she refuses to listen to me. And my husband just doesn't care enough to say anything. For now the nautilus is in my car so if she needs it she has to call me. DH can't drop it off. Luckily school is starting so I'm thinking about cutting out these sleepovers altogether. I need some opinons..anyone deal with something like this before...or any MIL here that can give me some advice on how to deal with her.
Sorry this is long I'm just so frustrated and angry she would risk my dd life like that.
Sorry this is long I'm just so frustrated and angry she would risk my dd life like that.