My Sweet Blessings
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I posted a couple months ago about my SIL not using her carseat properly for her newborn. There were things like the harness being very loose, the chest clip all the way down to the buckle, and using aftermarket double headrests for head support. Her and her husband are intelligent people, so I am a bit surprised this wasnt on their list of things to look into.. or read the manual. SO, I printed out materials for her and included them in a nice gift bag of goodies (just bonus "i love my nephew" gifts). My husband and I both mentioned the issues lightly as to not step on toes. I figured she would go home and read the materias. WRONG! She must have tossed them in the trash can! I saw them today and was dissapointed. They ditched the double headrest, but I think that's because he is a bit older now at 3 months. The chest clip was still low. the harness was ok, but deffinately should have been tighter. they added another no-no, though. the harness strap was above his shoulders instead of below... and majorly above. I was standing there with the dad as the mom went to the bathroom (they were leaving as soon as the mom was done). I felt behind the baby for the slots to be sure were they were and that it didnt just look higher. sadly, it was higher. I said screw it and had to mention that to the dad. (ive already mentioned the other things and they didnt listen then). this time, I was a bit more assertive and it wasnt totally passive. I flat out told him that the harness should be moved down because the straps should not be above his shoulders. I wasnt mean, but kinda said it in a way where hopefully he takes me seriously. He said "I don't know, (SIL's name) adjusted not too long ago" :thumbsdown: I love them dearly and I love my nephew dearly, but I am so sad that they aren't taking this seriously! This is there one and only child's life we are talking about! I don't understand why they have not read the manual and researched the issue to keep him as safe as possible. I just don't get it! I told DH about it on the way home and he didnt know what to say. He just said "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. You've done what you can do and now it's up to them.". He's right, but I am sad that they aren't listening to me. maybe she thinks I am stepping on her toes cause I am the "seasoned" mom?!?!? I mentioned that because I realized tonight that family are seeing the differences in us and doing some comparing. She was gone and I was in the other room changing my baby and I heard them talk about the differences in us and called me the "seasoned" mom. I dont know if they know I heard them, but I wonder if she's realized this or has overheard something?!?! Ok, now i am rambling. LOL thanks for letting me vent!