yeah, you 2 may have similar stories so you may understand where we are coming from. We are hoping that she will 'see the light' and leave the situation and realize she is MUCH better out of it and it is MUCH better for her DD. Shes a pretty good mom though, so I know that her heart is there and she is trying. She at least tried to leave, which is a good step. We are there for her always but cant enable her to stay in the situation, kwim? Its long and confusing, but that is how life can be. She at least has us when she needs us, and always will.
Hopefully DS will react well to her being around for a few hours a week and I can get my baby fix, she can keep her job, and maybe we can get through to her a little more. I would MUCH rather watch the baby even in a bad situation than some stranger that doesn't know what they are doing or doesnt care.