Dreaming_of_Speed
Senior Community Member
Did any of you have someone who tried constantly to put you down the for the items you bought/registered for?
I havent started registering yet (little early ) but i have began shopping and when certain people find out what i've looked at or thinking of spending they all have opinions on the products or the amount it costs.
My fiance and i are planning on buy a house and renting one of the bedrooms to his best friend. If i had a choice we wouldnt be doing it but we need the money and he and DF had been planning on moving in together and then chanced his mind so we (read: he) offered him this deal and i didnt get much of a say. Thats all well and good, except his friend seems to think he knows everything about baby equipment b/c his little sister babysat a baby and she had some stuff (read: crap). he sees me as a spoiled little rich girl (my parents didnt have any money when i was growing up b/c they started a business now that the biz is doing well they like to buy me expensive gifts occasionally and didnt let me get a job till after i finished high school.) so when i mention i found this or that that i liked or want in his presence he comments about how i'm wasting DF's money or how i dont know what a dolalr is worth.
I was given alot of old used baby stuff from his family but its rather old (6 years at least) or really gross (filthy never washed and old bought used stuff). Its a nice gesture but i dont really see alot of it as usable so i've been shopping for new and people keep commenting how they gave me this or that so i wont really need a new one but in my eyes i do. I've found alot of it has safety issues (sharp spots, rust, broken plastic) and the dirty stuff is just too gross for me.
Not to mention i'm having TWINS that's 2 babies one highchair is not going to be enough, i need to of almost everything so i still have to buy things. I like my stuff to match, at least if i have 2 of something i like them to be similar. I'm not crazy enough to buy the whole graco line just to match everything but i do like my swings to be alike and my high chairs to match.
Did anyone else have to tell someone that they are adults and can decide how to spend your own money? I'm a big girl i know my finances and i can decide if i can afford 2 cradle swings or if i need to hit every garage sale in town to find 2 mismatched old crank style swings! The new stuff has features the old stuff doesnt have isnt it my choice if i use it or not?
On a side note: Anything they gave me i'm not planning on using i'm thinking of giving to his cousin who's pregnant (though i'd like to have her come move in with us but i dont know if thats do-able) I cant decide if its wrong to give her things that i dont think are safe enough to use for my child for her to use on her's. I was young and pregnant and i know i didnt read about the baby stuff half as much then as i did now. I'm worried she wont know that something is wrong with it until too late so maybe i should just trash the stuff that a possible risk?
Anyway thats the end of my rant. I hope no one actually read it all!
I havent started registering yet (little early ) but i have began shopping and when certain people find out what i've looked at or thinking of spending they all have opinions on the products or the amount it costs.
My fiance and i are planning on buy a house and renting one of the bedrooms to his best friend. If i had a choice we wouldnt be doing it but we need the money and he and DF had been planning on moving in together and then chanced his mind so we (read: he) offered him this deal and i didnt get much of a say. Thats all well and good, except his friend seems to think he knows everything about baby equipment b/c his little sister babysat a baby and she had some stuff (read: crap). he sees me as a spoiled little rich girl (my parents didnt have any money when i was growing up b/c they started a business now that the biz is doing well they like to buy me expensive gifts occasionally and didnt let me get a job till after i finished high school.) so when i mention i found this or that that i liked or want in his presence he comments about how i'm wasting DF's money or how i dont know what a dolalr is worth.
I was given alot of old used baby stuff from his family but its rather old (6 years at least) or really gross (filthy never washed and old bought used stuff). Its a nice gesture but i dont really see alot of it as usable so i've been shopping for new and people keep commenting how they gave me this or that so i wont really need a new one but in my eyes i do. I've found alot of it has safety issues (sharp spots, rust, broken plastic) and the dirty stuff is just too gross for me.
Not to mention i'm having TWINS that's 2 babies one highchair is not going to be enough, i need to of almost everything so i still have to buy things. I like my stuff to match, at least if i have 2 of something i like them to be similar. I'm not crazy enough to buy the whole graco line just to match everything but i do like my swings to be alike and my high chairs to match.
Did anyone else have to tell someone that they are adults and can decide how to spend your own money? I'm a big girl i know my finances and i can decide if i can afford 2 cradle swings or if i need to hit every garage sale in town to find 2 mismatched old crank style swings! The new stuff has features the old stuff doesnt have isnt it my choice if i use it or not?
On a side note: Anything they gave me i'm not planning on using i'm thinking of giving to his cousin who's pregnant (though i'd like to have her come move in with us but i dont know if thats do-able) I cant decide if its wrong to give her things that i dont think are safe enough to use for my child for her to use on her's. I was young and pregnant and i know i didnt read about the baby stuff half as much then as i did now. I'm worried she wont know that something is wrong with it until too late so maybe i should just trash the stuff that a possible risk?
Anyway thats the end of my rant. I hope no one actually read it all!