Off Topic: Family Court

I've complained about it often enough here & there in this forum so I thought I'd give an update

At the Part II Hearing my ex was again a no-show, no-call as he has been at past hearings & for roughly 50% of the visitations (not to mention the total lack of any child support $ whatsoever). He failed to complete his addiction counseling. Considering all this & the fact that he violated the Order of Protection, the Judge made an Order based on default that the Order of Protection extend for another year, I still have Sole Custody & his visitations are to be Supervised Permanently according to a specific, regular, reliable schedule (3 hours per week after church).

This means it's not going to Trial & I don't have to worry now about him exposing my daughter to dangerous illegal activity! I'm free to move further upstate without any problems & my attorney said that when I get married there's almost no risk whatsoever of the Judge not approving my request to have my daughter's last name changed with mine -- I don't need her biodad's permission in our state; it just has to be "in the best interest of the child" & sharing the same name as 2 professional parents who constantly show true caring for her is certainly in her best interest compared to that loser....

So, the move further upstate with my new man (the OBGYN) might happen sooner than planned - the financial issue with my car is getting worked out, I'm using student loan refunds to pay off other personal loans & my tax refund to go on vacation (I can't wait for that Britax Two Way Plus, heheheh) & I'm going to apply for a Women's Small Business loan etc. to begin a Small Day Care Center in my man's new Women's Medicine Institute where I'll also be offering Childbirth Education. Things are going really well just in time for the holidays! I've even made great progress in therapy for my Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. We celebrated in Rockefeller Center last weekend & I have been on an emotional high for days

BRIGHTEST BLESSINGS TO YOU ALL

Sounds like things are starting on an upswing. i hope all goes well for you

That is awesome Papooses!!! I am so excited for you!! Is there going to be a wedding soon then?

So I have always wondered something, and if you don't feel comfortable answering, just tell me.
You have your s-dd and s-ds alot, and now you have given your Blvd and Wizard to Elfie (who I have gathered is your s-dd's little sister??) Does that mean they all Leila's bio dad's kids?
My ex had a dd from his first marriage and I was pretty close with her while we were together (we were never married). I have seen her a couple times over the last 10 years that we have been split up, but she never comes to visit me and I never have her with me. The only times I have seen her is at a mutual friend's and one time I ran into her and her grandma in town. So am I missing something, or do you just have a fantastic relationship with your ex's kids???

Thanks, Dreaming

Nice new Ticker, Holly

& Yep, I call them my stepkids (or bonus kids) for lack of a better "title"....
Leila, Janaishia & Demetrius all have the same dad -- their mom & I live less than 1/2 mile from each other

ok, I get it now. So this isn't Elfie's dad? I was esp confused when you said Leila's dad hasn't been around.
I'm still not too sure about this pregnancy, but I decided this weekend I want to be excited about it, so I made a new ticker, and I joined a couple boards over on Amity's.

I have this new outlook on life: I have every right to be happy, even about those things that might not last - there's no Bank for emotions, no limit to tap out.... So, basically, Holly, GOOD FOR YOU for choosing to be happy about your pregnancy - you have every right to be! *HUGS*

& yep, Elfie is Janaishia's & Demetrius' 1/2 sister, like Leila - those 3 have the same mom ... Janaishia is still trying to grasp the concept that although both Elfie & Leila are her sisters, they aren't sisters to eachother

Dang Tiffany, I needed to hear that this morning. Now you got me crying! lol I know he can't hear me yet, but I had a nice long talk with him this morning, and told him I'm ok with whatever happens. I feel like such a nerd admitting that.

I love to learn about people's families. I have a half brother, but he seldom lived with us, so I was pretty much an only (boring) child. Big families and mixed families just facinate me.

Aw, that's not nerdy - it's great mommying!

I was pretty much an only child, too & sort of guffawed at your "(boring)" I actually have 4 1/2 siblings, but they're 14-16 years older than me