dimsumdaddy
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I'm posting to this forum because I believe that the people here are (mostly women), are forced to be practical parents, yet obviously hold child safety in high regard.
Here's my situation:
- my wife and I are expecting child #3 in May
- child #1 is 4.5 yrs old (preschool/kindergarden), and child #2 is 1.5 yrs old
- my wife is career oriented and refuses to be a stay at home mom
- I can't quit because I make significantly more $$ than her at my job, for less hours and more flexible hours. And we can't live just on her salary.
- my wife's career (it's more than just a job to her) takes about 55-60 hr/wk, which leaves me to do both drop off and pick up (I work about 40 hr/wk)
- we are EXTREMELY lucky (and thankful) that the grandma's are our daycare, including pickup from preschool.
- I drive a Subaru Impreza to work (and although squishy, I've managed 3 across with the Radian)
- my wife drives a Lexus RX330 SUV which easily gets 3 across with a Radian
- since we both need to go to work, we both need cars to do so
- since my wife has had her luxury level vehicle, she refuses to drive anything less than a luxury level car
- EDIT: wife poopoo's the idea of buying used, especially a used van (which she believed will always be abused)
PROBLEM:
- grandma (wife side) has a BMW330 which is too small to fit 3 across (due to the curvature of the rear seat; even with a Radian)
- grandma (wife side) also has to watch her aging mother
- grandma (my mother) takes the train from out of town to stay with us for a week at a time, so she has no car while she's down here.
- the grandma's are willing to continue to watch the kids... BUT THEY NEED A VEHICLE THAT CAN CARRY ALL THE KIDS.
So far, here's my brainstorm:
Please help me brainstorm... I need a solution at least for this next year from July 08 to July 09.
Here's my situation:
- my wife and I are expecting child #3 in May
- child #1 is 4.5 yrs old (preschool/kindergarden), and child #2 is 1.5 yrs old
- my wife is career oriented and refuses to be a stay at home mom
- I can't quit because I make significantly more $$ than her at my job, for less hours and more flexible hours. And we can't live just on her salary.
- my wife's career (it's more than just a job to her) takes about 55-60 hr/wk, which leaves me to do both drop off and pick up (I work about 40 hr/wk)
- we are EXTREMELY lucky (and thankful) that the grandma's are our daycare, including pickup from preschool.
- I drive a Subaru Impreza to work (and although squishy, I've managed 3 across with the Radian)
- my wife drives a Lexus RX330 SUV which easily gets 3 across with a Radian
- since we both need to go to work, we both need cars to do so
- since my wife has had her luxury level vehicle, she refuses to drive anything less than a luxury level car
- EDIT: wife poopoo's the idea of buying used, especially a used van (which she believed will always be abused)
PROBLEM:
- grandma (wife side) has a BMW330 which is too small to fit 3 across (due to the curvature of the rear seat; even with a Radian)
- grandma (wife side) also has to watch her aging mother
- grandma (my mother) takes the train from out of town to stay with us for a week at a time, so she has no car while she's down here.
- the grandma's are willing to continue to watch the kids... BUT THEY NEED A VEHICLE THAT CAN CARRY ALL THE KIDS.
So far, here's my brainstorm:
- buy a Mazda5 (grandma on wife doesn't like it because it's too small)
- buy a van (Odyssey,Sienna, etc) (problem: spending $35k on a 3rd vehicle doesn't make sense to me... but wife and her mother want the convenience of the larger size)
- buy wife a new car and use the SUV for the grandmas (but then I have to spend > $35k on a luxo sedan)
- flex my hours so that I handle 1 kid (oldest) by myself, allowing grandma to only worry about 2. (problem - since my wife is often working evenings, I take care of the kids myself... and I'll have no hours to flex work to)
- ???
- buy a van (Odyssey,Sienna, etc) (problem: spending $35k on a 3rd vehicle doesn't make sense to me... but wife and her mother want the convenience of the larger size)
- buy wife a new car and use the SUV for the grandmas (but then I have to spend > $35k on a luxo sedan)
- flex my hours so that I handle 1 kid (oldest) by myself, allowing grandma to only worry about 2. (problem - since my wife is often working evenings, I take care of the kids myself... and I'll have no hours to flex work to)
- ???
Please help me brainstorm... I need a solution at least for this next year from July 08 to July 09.
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