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Yesterday was one of the hardest days in my life. I spent 24 hours in the hospital for preterm labor. They gave me a shot to stop the labor, two steroid shots to help develop the baby's lungs and a bunch of antibiotics. I spent the whole 24 hours alone since my husband was working late and I am still in pain. Instead of worrying about the baby I was worried because my husband had no choice but to leave my 2 boys with his brother. I was worried all day that he would take my children without a carseat. His 2 year old goes somewhere everyday without a carseat and I know they just dont care about carseat safety. My husband used his nephews carseat (which he rarely rides in) and my sons regent to take my boys to his brothers house. My brother in law took the all 3 kids to go get toys in the day. He put his son in his carseat, my 3 year old in my other sons regent and my 4 year old, barely 40 pounds in the middle with the cars belt. Im not saying that he should have put his child without the carseat but they did not have to go anywhere, or one of them should have stayed home with my sister in law. Its just not worth risking my childs life to go buy toys. My husband has told them that my kids need to be restrained and now I feel that I have to say something to my brother in law. Because obviously what my husband said didnt get through to them. I have noone else to leave them with when the time comes to deliver my baby at the hospital. They have an arabic culture and my husband does not want me to talk to him about it but what kind of a mom would I be if I didnt say anything. My husband is going to be angry for saying something but I have to do what I have to do. I guess I just want some advice on what to say. I know no matter how nicely I say it he will get offended. And Im afraid that if I call or talk to him I will start crying and not be able to get out what I need to say. Would it be fine to just write a letter. What do you think I should write in it or is it better to try and talk to him. I already got in a big fight with my husband about it and I cant stop crying. I should have been worrying about my baby coming early yesterday and now I know that I was right to worry about my sons safety in the car. Thanks for any advice you have for me.
Yesterday was one of the hardest days in my life. I spent 24 hours in the hospital for preterm labor. They gave me a shot to stop the labor, two steroid shots to help develop the baby's lungs and a bunch of antibiotics. I spent the whole 24 hours alone since my husband was working late and I am still in pain. Instead of worrying about the baby I was worried because my husband had no choice but to leave my 2 boys with his brother. I was worried all day that he would take my children without a carseat. His 2 year old goes somewhere everyday without a carseat and I know they just dont care about carseat safety. My husband used his nephews carseat (which he rarely rides in) and my sons regent to take my boys to his brothers house. My brother in law took the all 3 kids to go get toys in the day. He put his son in his carseat, my 3 year old in my other sons regent and my 4 year old, barely 40 pounds in the middle with the cars belt. Im not saying that he should have put his child without the carseat but they did not have to go anywhere, or one of them should have stayed home with my sister in law. Its just not worth risking my childs life to go buy toys. My husband has told them that my kids need to be restrained and now I feel that I have to say something to my brother in law. Because obviously what my husband said didnt get through to them. I have noone else to leave them with when the time comes to deliver my baby at the hospital. They have an arabic culture and my husband does not want me to talk to him about it but what kind of a mom would I be if I didnt say anything. My husband is going to be angry for saying something but I have to do what I have to do. I guess I just want some advice on what to say. I know no matter how nicely I say it he will get offended. And Im afraid that if I call or talk to him I will start crying and not be able to get out what I need to say. Would it be fine to just write a letter. What do you think I should write in it or is it better to try and talk to him. I already got in a big fight with my husband about it and I cant stop crying. I should have been worrying about my baby coming early yesterday and now I know that I was right to worry about my sons safety in the car. Thanks for any advice you have for me.