Xandra
New member
So, I always go by best practice with my foster kids, and have never had a bio parent issue. Until now. I have just-turned 3yr old twin girls in my care. They just spent a week in respite care (meaning another foster family cared for them 24/7) while I had and recovered from surgery. I picked them up on Thursday after my surgeon cleared me to lift them at my post-OP. The foster mom helped me carry the girls and their stuff out to the car, and opened the passenger door to put J in her seat. I was driving the minivan, and she commented "Oh, are their seats in the back?" I responded that no, those were their seats, and a short explanation on ERF. She just responded with "Oh." I didn't think anything of it, until the girls' phone call with their mom yesterday. After the girls were finished, I got on the phone to update her and she brought up the ERF. I guess the other foster mom said something to the girls' case worker, she she said something to mom. Mom was upset about me RF'ing them. She was of-course concerned about their legs, etc, the normal "new to ERF" worries. After explaining (it's 5x safer, I'm responsible for keeping her girls as safe as possible, etc) she was still adamant that they need to be FF. Emphasis on need. I told her that we should talk about it another time, that I needed to get the kids in bed. Well, today the girls' case worker calls me. She tells me that mom insists that the girls be FF, that she's raising big hell about it. I'm told to turn them around to "make peace." I respect ER decision as a mother; however, they're in my care. I'm responsible if something happens to them. And you can bet she'd be raising hell if they were FF and injured in an accident. I'm not sure what to do. Turn them around? Say I turned them around and don't?