D&L's-mommy
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I babysit my 2 month old niece, her parents got her an embrace 35, which I hate, but that's another story. They insist on her wearing this big huge bulky snowsuit in her CR, and because of it the harness is insanely loose. I've explained to them how dangerous it is and even tried to demonstrate. I put my niece in the snowsuit, snapped her in the harness as tight as I could make it, then simply held onto the shoulders of the snowsuit and lifted her right out of the harness without unbuckling it, it was that loose around her body. I then took the snow suit off of her, put her in the harness without making tighter than it was set to fit with the snow suit, and buckled it up. The harness was serving no point, it hung off her. They said "oh, but the snow suit holds her in" I did take it upon my self to move the harness up to a higher slot once she was even with it, and that at least seemed to keep the harness above her shoulder rather than down at her elbows, but at least that opened the conversation about "AT or below" while RF. I've also told them many times that the carry handle for that seat needs to be all the way front ( and explained that in the front position it even kind of acts like anti-rebound, and the potential benefits of that) or moved to the back of the seat. They still put the seat in with the handle in the carry position. I've been telling them several times a week since she was born how dangerous it is to use a CR improperly, they just shrug it off and say "but it's cold" or , "if it wasn't safe to have the handle they wouldn't make them with handles". I've told them that when I take her out in my car she will not be wearing the snowsuit, that a hat, a cotton outfit, and a folded receiving blanket on her lap is adequate and safe. That if it's windy or raining I will drape a heavier blanket over the bucket while she is outside to block the elements. And that I will always put the handle into a safe position. They said that I can do what I feel is best, and they will do as they feel is best. At what point am I just to stop repeating myself? I hate to think that if I stop nagging them and she gets hurt I will feel terrible, but if I continue to bring it up they may just stop listening to my advice at all. My brother is more receptive to advice than my SIL, so I talk to him more than her, and say "this is not safe because _____maybe you could mention it your wife too" And he says he will, but neither of them do anything different. I don't know what to do.