What is your comfort level for FF a 30 month old?

RubysGirl · Jul 25, 2012

She's still small, but we have a three across situation and she keeps kicking her brothers' faces. DS2 could be turned back if we bought a seat that went to 45lbs RF, but chances are he'll kick his brother, too.

WWYD?

DD is 30 months, 34 1/2" and >27lbs.

hrice · Jul 25, 2012

I would not FF a 2 year old. I deal with the same situation in my vehicle. If it isn't my RFer kicking it's the FFers reaching over and pinching, hitting, etc. It is ALWAYS something! I would just have your RFer go shoeless to avoid any real damage.

jess71903 · Jul 25, 2012

I can't say that I'd never ever under any circumstances FF a 2.5 year old, but I wouldn't in your case without a serious discipline regime first. Maybe give the FFers permission to grab and hold her feet for a few seconds every time she kicks or something, and yeah, make her ride shoeless.

kdkm · Jul 25, 2012

I am not comfortable with my niece who will be 3 next month and has similar stats FF, so no I would not be comfortable with a 30 month old FF.

Baylor · Jul 25, 2012

I would flip her and not think about it. Not having peace in the car and strife can be Just as dangerous.

auto correct hates me

safeinthecar · Jul 25, 2012

Put the two kickers next to each other so they can punish each other?

hrice · Jul 25, 2012

Baylor said:
I would flip her and not think about it. Not having peace in the car and strife can be Just as dangerous.

auto correct hates me

Really? She's 2. I think it's worth it to try other options like riding shoeless, etc.

My kids kick and scream no matter what direction they face.

Cryssy Jane · Jul 25, 2012

hrice said:
I would not FF a 2 year old. I deal with the same situation in my vehicle. If it isn't my RFer kicking it's the FFers reaching over and pinching, hitting, etc. It is ALWAYS something! I would just have your RFer go shoeless to avoid any real damage.

Bolded. Usually it's my Rfers kicking my FFer but today the FFer was initiating everything. We just take shoes off in the car and tell them to deal with it.

gsdguenter · Jul 25, 2012

DD2 turned 3 on 5/6 and I'm not comfortable ff her.

I'd try shoeless and a discipline plan before I turned for that.

SignCuer · Jul 25, 2012

Baylor said:
I would flip her and not think about it. Not having peace in the car and strife can be Just as dangerous.

auto correct hates me

Really? The kid probably will find another way to be irritating whether FF or RF. Believe me, I know. I constantly have 4-6 kids in a 1996 Ford Windstar with only one sliding door. It's not easy. Would my solution is to FF help? No. Honestly the risks of FF a young'un that age in an accident is more prevalent than not having peace in the car.

I rarely have peace in the car myself

So absolutely not. I would definitely not FF a 2 year old. This is the testing phase. With a good dose of discipline, she'll learn to leave others alone.

An Aurora · Jul 25, 2012

I'd flip. My kid was ff at that age, and there's nothing I can do short of buying a new car, and I'm fine with that.

bobandjess99 · Jul 25, 2012

I'm ok with it if there is a good reason. however, I'll get on my snooty parenting horse and say that that type of misbehavior by a neurotypical child would NOT, in my book, be considered a "good reason". I'd put a stop to that real quick.

manitobamimi · Jul 25, 2012

Personally I wouldn't forward face a two year old. I think forward facing her would probably only be a temporary solution anyway, once the novelty of forward facing wore off she'd find some other way of annoying her siblings. Two year olds are naughty,

have you tried maybe buying a portable dvd player and distracting her with movies, or maybe some washable crayons or stickers? Or could you move her outboard so she could see out the window better?

ElfJewel · Jul 25, 2012

When I had a problem with kicking, Jamie asked to be turned back around so Ian couldn't reach her (they can still pinch/hit when facing the same direction but not kick). I would consider FFing an almost 3yo who was outgrowing their seat, but for a discipline issue I would do everything I could to deal with the behavior first.
Oh, and they are allowed to take the kicker's shoes.

boneheaderss · Jul 25, 2012

I would not feel comfortable forward facing any child of any age until they have genuinely have outgrown their convertible car seat in the rear facing position. Age has nothing to do with it.

Is she in the center? I'd try and jam two huge pieces of cardboard between the seats so that she cannot kick her brothers.

Kel · Jul 25, 2012

My three little's touch each other. And my three big whisper things to each other, that can be even worse, lol. That's in my 12 passenger van. I really feel for you.

I think she'll stop after new of kicking get's boring. Or have 7yr old hold her feet down. I think she'll do something else they hate FFing to.

Kelley

TXmom2 · Jul 26, 2012

My 3 yr old kicks no matter which way she's facing.

(she is back RF full time now after a brief FF test run)

She either kicks the baby, or her big sister or both at the same time (flexible little things, they are)
We have a 3 strike rule. 1-warning. 2-take shoes (this is usually enough) and 3-loses dessert, bedtime story or gets time out (depending on time of day & flexibilty of the schedule)

and no, I wouldn't FF because of this

jeminijad · Jul 26, 2012

SignCuer said:
Honestly the risks of FF a young'un that age in an accident is more prevalent than not having peace in the car. I rarely have peace in the car myself

So absolutely not. I would definitely not FF a 2 year old. This is the testing phase. With a good dose of discipline, she'll learn to leave others alone.

We do not have evidence that a forward facing 2.5 year old is riskier than a carful of screaming kids. You can't make that assertion, because you don't have any numbers on distracted driving, and the info on RFing is hardly deep and wide.

You are deaf, correct? While irrelevant in most ways, this may be very relevant when it comes to distracted driving.

An Aurora · Jul 26, 2012

jeminijad said:
We do not have evidence that a forward facing 2.5 year old is riskier than a carful of screaming kids. You can't make that assertion, because you don't have any numbers on distracted driving, and the info on RFing is hardly deep and wide.

You are deaf, correct? While irrelevant in most ways, this may be very relevant when it comes to distracted driving.

:yeahthat: x 1,000,000

SignCuer · Jul 26, 2012

jeminijad said:
We do not have evidence that a forward facing 2.5 year old is riskier than a carful of screaming kids. You can't make that assertion, because you don't have any numbers on distracted driving, and the info on RFing is hardly deep and wide.

You are deaf, correct? While irrelevant in most ways, this may be very relevant when it comes to distracted driving.

Yes you are right we don't have evidence. I should have made myself more clearer and it was my opinion only, not based on anything else. If a person wanted to FF the kid, fine with me. Not my kid. I'm just giving my opinion what I would do.

As being deaf, yes.. I'm deaf and how is this relevant? Can you clarify before I write a nice long response?

What is your comfort level for FF a 30 month old?

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