Force the issue or let it ride?

Lenae

Active member
LOOONG story short, I have a girly Radian to fly with and a not girly Marathon. I'd really like to put Colton in the Radian, but he is flat out refusing.

Reasons I'd like to switch their seats; Chy can RF on the plane, and she is a major seat kicker. Colton will sleep better in the much more upright Radian because he's used to it.

Is it worth it to make him use the Radian and be upset for the whole trip (he holds grudges) or do I just FF both of them and hope for the best?
 
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Kac

Ambassador - CPS Technician
What kind of Radian is it? I have a Shadow RXT cover I could send you but I'm assuming it wouldn't make it in time?
 

Lenae

Active member
Maybe only for the plane and switch around for the car?

Switching for the car would be no big deal at all, but Colton is pretty upset with the thought of riding in a flower seat on the plane. (I never ingrained gender stereotypes in this kid, he did it all on his own.)

What kind of Radian is it? I have a Shadow RXT cover I could send you but I'm assuming it wouldn't make it in time?

Thanks. It's a Spring RXT. We leave May 6th, I'm not sure it would get here in time, and I would hate to have it get here and me be already gone with no way to send back. I may just tell him to suck it up for a while.

I really hate to do this to him, but I think it might just be best.
 

crunchierthanthou

New member
Thanks. It's a Spring RXT. We leave May 6th, I'm not sure it would get here in time, and I would hate to have it get here and me be already gone with no way to send back. I may just tell him to suck it up for a while.

I really hate to do this to him, but I think it might just be best.

I don't think Spring is all that girly. I wouldn't think twice about putting my son in one. :twocents:

Did you tell him it was a girl's seat? or is it just that his sister rides in it? You barely notice that it's flowers, and the colors are completely neutral.
 

T4K

Well-known member
I'd have a really awesome incentive waiting for him in Oregon. Maybe a special thing that he and you could go do.
 

Keeanh

Well-known member
Maybe get a bedsheet in boy colours or with cars on it or something (you must have some sheets you're leaving behind) and cut slots in it for the harness, cut off the extra, & tape it on. Yeah, it's "aftermarket", LOL, but it's just a sheet. Tell him "hey look, it's a special seat that's just for the plane" and don't even tell him it's his sister's seat.
 

Lenae

Active member
I like the idea of covering it. He's got John Deere tractor sheets from his crib days I could donate to the cause, lol.

I never told him it was a girly seat. His 'best friend' has been informing him since we moved here a year ago that all the things Colton likes are girly or babyish.

I have a firetruck toy waiting with my mom for when she picks us up. I could inform him ahead of time that a SUPER special surprise waits for him if he is nice and cooperative for the flight.

DH is in the 'don't give him a choice' camp. I just hate to upset him any more than this whole ordeal already has. He's pretty upset about moving. He loves it here. :(
 

gigi

New member
I would not give him a choice, but i'd bribe his compliance with treats and surprises. And if possible, let him chose other stuff about the ride...who he sits next to, what shirt he wears, which treat he gets on board, what he gets to play with, and get lots of stickers and let him get crazy with them. He will make it!

I understand your dilemma. My son takes stuff very seriously and personally too, but usually I can bribe compliance in a pinch :)
 

SynEpona

New member
I like the idea of covering it. He's got John Deere tractor sheets from his crib days I could donate to the cause, lol.
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DH is in the 'don't give him a choice' camp. I just hate to upset him any more than this whole ordeal already has. He's pretty upset about moving. He loves it here. :(

DS would feel the same way about that seat. On a plane, I'm less worried about RFng, and more concerned with containment. If it would help,I would totally cover a seat with a sheet for the plane ride. I think it's kind of you to respect his feelings since this plane ride is more than *just* a flight. He's moving, which is hard for kids even when they don't like where they are leaving. I too have a boy that would hold a grudge for months if I forced the issue of a 'girly' seat. He didn't even want to sit in DDs seat for 2 min for photos the other day, just so I could show someone that if my 5yo still fits RFng, there was no good reason to flip their child the moment they hit the legal minimum.
 

crunchierthanthou

New member
I just hate to upset him any more than this whole ordeal already has. He's pretty upset about moving. He loves it here. :(

Oh, you're moving and he's having a hard time? :( I didn't know the whole story, just that you had a flight coming up. FF his 2 year old sister on the flight and leave them in their own seats. No question. I started ff my kids on flights between age 2 and 3 anyway.

The person in front of her can deal with the kicking. Will you all 4 be flying together? If the plane seats 3 on each side, maybe put dh in front of her. Or if they're two on each side, put ds in front of her. Maybe just sit 2 and 2 in consecutive rows anyway? That way he's in front of her and you don't have to stress about the kicking.
 

cookie123

New member
I also would say don't give him a choice, and bribery. I hope you have a great flight and your move goes okay. How long is the flight?
 

Kat_Momof3

New member
I would totally cover it because it's for a plane ride, not an actual car trip... and... it's just a sheet... crash dynamics are totally different for a plane, plus... if you use a thin sheet, it'd be like wearing a thicker shirt... not much added.

otherwise, do whatever works when you get there?
 

teekadog

Active member
My son's 6 weeks older than yours and proudly rides in his Flora Radian- he picked the cover out himself.

Not that that changes your son's mind, of course.

I would force him. Or bribe him if I were desperate. But I would continue to drill into him that it's not a "girly" seat. Otherwise you'll soon be hearing that all car seats are "baby" seats and then you're screwed.
 

babyherder

Well-known member
Maybe someone can post a pic of their ds in a flora seat? Or a pink seat (even if its just for demo purposed the OP's ds doesn't need to know that).

I'd be understanding with your ds that this move is hard. Talk with him about it and let him know that you understand he is sad to be leaving. Certainly have something fun for him when you arrive. I'd give him the choice of riding in the seat as it is or covering it with something more "boyish." But ultimately you have what seats you have. When I make seat choices safety comes first, then convenience, then cover. Sometimes life isn't perfect.
 

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