Help!! 19 month old hates RFing now

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kkcoconut

New member

• Apr 15, 2012

• #1

My Ds is 19 months and has just recently hated RFing. He screams and cries the entire time in the car and when he sees his seat. It started last week when he drove FFing in my mom’s car but was only in it for a minute long ride twice. My goal was to FF till about 4 and 2 at the minimum but I can't take the screaming. Does anyone have any suggestions? I've tries giving him toys, books and snacks but nothing works.

 

Patriot201

Car-Seat.org Ambassador

• Apr 15, 2012

• #2

It isn't rear-facing he hates; it's being confined. Most kids go through this at about this age.

Keep trying special toys, special snacks, fun music, etc. He will outgrow it.



Is he fairly upright so he can see better? That often helps, too.

 

Brigala

CPST Instructor

• Apr 15, 2012

• #3

He'll get over it. Don't let him ride FFing again until you're ready to turn him.

It may or may not have anything to do with RFing/FFing. It could just be a stage. Or it could be that the novelty of FF did make him want to keep doing it that way for a while. Either way, it should pass.

 

Kat_Momof3

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• Apr 15, 2012

• #4

it is a phase... he would do the same thing if he'd been ff since 12mo, I promise. almost all kids go through a rebellious testing of limits phase where getting them in the car is fun in a "omg I wanna throw the kid across the car" kind of way. fortunately, this, too, shall pass. When? all depends on his personality. And lemme tell ya, it is WAY harder to make a toddler get strapped in when they throw a tantrum and are forward facing... cause when they go flat as a board, they drop to the floor... can't do that rf... the seat is there

 

Ali

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• Apr 15, 2012

• #5

DD did that at about that age. I just firmly told her "NO" whenever she tried to pitch a fit. That usually resulted in drama tears, but she learned I wasn't giving in. I also made it into a game - see if I could sing the ABC song before we could get her buckled in. She loved "racing."

 

MommyShannon

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• Apr 15, 2012

• #6

I agree that it will pass. DD2 did that at that age and has never been FF. She actually seems to really like her seat, just goes through phases or days of not wanting to be strapped in. We recently took a long trip so she's fought me more often again lately. Some days the only way to get her in since she braces herself so well is to give her the iPad or iPhone.

 

creideamh

Well-known member

• Apr 15, 2012

• #7

Yup, phase. DD is doing this now and she's never been FF. Thankfully she's only screaming when I put her in and then stops when we're moving... hoping it stays that way...

 

MommyShannon

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• Apr 15, 2012

• #8

Also, I turned my older kids FF at 1 before learning all the benefits of RF and they went through similar phases.

 

Cath3114

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• Apr 15, 2012

• #9

My 20m has days like that. She doesn't want to be confined. Fortunately that's not her choice. Sometimes I have to force her in the seat, but FF is not an option.

 

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Emi's Mommy

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• Apr 15, 2012

• #10

Another person who says it's totally normal for a 19m old to freak out, not because of RFing but because of being strapped down. It's a developmental phase. Mine turned 19m yesterday and I practically have to fold her in half to get her into her car seat and I can guarantee I'd have to do the same thing if she were FFing.

 

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kkcoconut

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• Apr 15, 2012

• #11

Thanks for the input! I just ordered the multi tech so maybe he'll like it better and if not I don't care I'm not going to waste the money by turning him. My goal was having him RFing till 4 minimum so I just have to tough it out when he's acting up I guess.

 

tl01

New member

• Apr 15, 2012

• #12

My DS2 has screamed in the car since birth. He's turning two next month. It often takes me 20 minutes to wrangle him into the seat. I just have to tough it out and be patient... I give him all sorts of things but he usually he isn't interested. He just wants to be out of his seat playing! Hang in there.