WWYD?

livilou · Apr 3, 2012

When I see someone improperly using a car seat, I offer them some information to help them. I don't shove it in their face, I just nicely give it to them and that's that.

Now a friend on Facebook keeps posting pictures of her son in his car seat (they are in the vehicle and in at least two of the pictures you can tell that the vehicle is moving) and the buckle is around his belly button and the straps are SO loose. And while she is driving with her son in the car seat like that, she has her dog sitting on her lap. Normally, as I said, I'd volunteer the information to help keep the little one safe, EXCEPT two and a half months ago she gave birth to a baby with a defect and he passed away the next day. So that's fresh. My reasoning for wanting to say something is for his safety and his safety only, but I'm thinking this is one situation I may need to keep my mouth shut.

Opinions?

laurengt · Apr 3, 2012

I would think "all the more reason to keep up on the other child's safety," right? I would say something but keep it short and sweet. Like, "hey I saw the pic of [insert child's name] in his seat and noticed that his straps seemed a little loose. I saw this great photo guide the other day that reminded me I need to always check that -- because it's so easy not to." ... And probably add a short personal note too.

(pic from some CPS fb the other day... Car seat Lady maybe or NHTSA?)

Maisie&BodensMommy · Apr 3, 2012

She have birth 2 months ago and lost her child. She does not need her car seat usage critiqued on Facebook.
I personally do not send notes to anyone on fb regarding their car seat usage. I do post stuff on my own profile, though (which is where I would post that guide).

cmcki737 · Apr 3, 2012

I would be hesitant to critique her parenting in any way at this time but you could post the picture of the harnesses with a message about how good a tool it is on your facebook...I just made it my status

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tiggercat · Apr 3, 2012

I absolutely would not send her a message about it right now. While I understand the idea of even more reason to keep the other one safe, I know I wouldn't have been able to deal with friendly advice at that stage. Posting to your own wall with helpful info would be a good idea, I think.

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laurengt · Apr 3, 2012

Wait -- is she just a friend on FB or a good friend in real life (ie. would you call he up on the phone to chat or exchange personal emails -- not FB messages) and you happened to see the pics via FB? I was assuming that you are actual friends when I said that I'd make some mention of it BUT if you're just acquaintances and friends just because of FB I would probably not say anything.

livilou · Apr 3, 2012

laurengt said:
Wait -- is she just a friend on FB or a good friend in real life (ie. would you call he up on the phone to chat or exchange personal emails -- not FB messages) and you happened to see the pics via FB? I was assuming that you are actual friends when I said that I'd make some mention of it BUT if you're just acquaintances and friends just because of FB I would probably not say anything.

She isn't my absolute best friend in the world who I see on a daily basis, but we do talk many times a week/get out together as often as possible, etc.

hrice · Apr 3, 2012

I'd say something in person. A friend of mine lost her husband in a car wreck. A few months later she came over to my house and I met her and her 2 boys ( 2 & 3) at the car. They were in Nautis with the shoulder straps under their arms and the seats were completely loose.

I had a conversation with her about it and we re-installed and I showed her how to properly use them and restrain her kids. She was depressed and needed a wake up call. I told her that she needed to restrain them properly every ride unless she wants to bury them too. She got it.

Phineasmama · Apr 3, 2012

I'd rather say something (in the nicest way possible) and potentially annoy her than not do anything and worry about the safety of her child every day. Yeah she lost a baby, how terrible would it be if she lost her other child too?!

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