Mommy0608
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He's been fighting me in the van lately. I don't know why, but he screams and throws a HUGE fit. Part of it is because he wants his "blue seat" (the Frontier 85 in DH's car), but part of it is just him being... well, him. Right now he's RF in the Radian in my van, our primary vehicle. I have another Frontier 85 sitting in my basement waiting for him. I had planned on switching him in a few months when he gets closer to the weight limit. He's about 35lbs right now (plus or minus a pound or so) but when we add winter weight clothes, boots, etc. he'll be close to 40lbs.
So this brings us to today. When I went to get him out of the car to pick DD up from school, he had already loosened his harness! He had reached down, pulled up the lever and leaned forward to loosen his harness! I gave him a VERY stern talking-to about this and I think I scared him. No idea if he'll do it again, and I don't know if he did it while I was driving or if he did it after we were stopped in the parking lot. I'd like to believe he did it after we were stopped, but I have no idea since DD wasn't in the van to tell me. I made her watch him the whole way home and he didn't do it again.
This makes me think maybe I should go ahead and switch him now, since he can't reach the lever on the Frontier 85 and I don't trust him not to do it again and we planned to switch him in the next couple of months anyway. However, I certainly do not want it to seem like a reward after bad behavior. Like I said, he frequently has massive fits getting into his Radian and screams about wanting his blue seat. However, there are also many times that he gets in nicely and asks very politely if he can please have his blue seat in the van.
I know this is a behavior issue and I need to try to correct it, which I did. However, this is a very serious risk. Maybe he won't ever do it again, but perhaps he will... it freaks me out to think about what might happen in a crash. We're often out running errands without DD while she's at school. I have a mirror I could put on his seat, but he can kick it off or at least kick it so that it's out of position and I can't see it, so that's not much help.
WWYD? Thanks.
ETA: Realized I left something out... DH and I previously agreed that our bare minimum for him to ride FF is age 3, which he has met (just barely).
So this brings us to today. When I went to get him out of the car to pick DD up from school, he had already loosened his harness! He had reached down, pulled up the lever and leaned forward to loosen his harness! I gave him a VERY stern talking-to about this and I think I scared him. No idea if he'll do it again, and I don't know if he did it while I was driving or if he did it after we were stopped in the parking lot. I'd like to believe he did it after we were stopped, but I have no idea since DD wasn't in the van to tell me. I made her watch him the whole way home and he didn't do it again.
This makes me think maybe I should go ahead and switch him now, since he can't reach the lever on the Frontier 85 and I don't trust him not to do it again and we planned to switch him in the next couple of months anyway. However, I certainly do not want it to seem like a reward after bad behavior. Like I said, he frequently has massive fits getting into his Radian and screams about wanting his blue seat. However, there are also many times that he gets in nicely and asks very politely if he can please have his blue seat in the van.
I know this is a behavior issue and I need to try to correct it, which I did. However, this is a very serious risk. Maybe he won't ever do it again, but perhaps he will... it freaks me out to think about what might happen in a crash. We're often out running errands without DD while she's at school. I have a mirror I could put on his seat, but he can kick it off or at least kick it so that it's out of position and I can't see it, so that's not much help.
WWYD? Thanks.
ETA: Realized I left something out... DH and I previously agreed that our bare minimum for him to ride FF is age 3, which he has met (just barely).
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