MagnificentMama
Senior Community Member
Sooo there is a discussion on another board about how it's "abusive" and "neglectful" to keep a kid restraint in a car seat if they dont like it. It's about how this child detests riding in the car, screams, makes it unbearable, anndd the mom admits that the child is never properly restrained at all because the baby keeps moving down the chest clip among other things. Sorry if we can't bring in other discussions, i promise i won't name names or anything. Basically i ended up skimming it because i just couldn't take the constant defensiveness and justification about using "cages" to restrain children. Anywhoo.. my questions....
Is there a point in time where your kids hated being in a seat?
What did you do about it?
How long did it last? Is it still an issue?
Did it self resolve, did you help it along?
My DD at a point in time hated being RFing and car rides were just buckets of fun, but i never once thought about how i was abusing her and ignoring her needs by making her stay harnessed, so this viewpoint is really new to me and i'm really trying to grasp it. Not defending it, but I do try to understand everyones opinion and I just really have a hard time agreeing with this one.
What the heck do you say to a parent who believes that making a kid CIO in the backseat of a car is abuse and they're clearly upset that there is a law that is "forcing" them to parent their child and they're bitter and defensive? Just give up and realize nothing will change their mind? I'm really trying to learn from this perspective so I can figure out a way to convince parents that it's really an issue of safety and not 'meaningless tortue' to put a kid through on an off chance that they'll be involved in a car crash.
Obviously i know this is a pro car seat board (duuuhhh ) but some of the opinions on the other board just absolutely floored me so i'm looking for some advice. I can't believe there are people defending this behavior, but I really know i'm anal about car seat safety so I realize there is a clear bias on my end.
Is there a point in time where your kids hated being in a seat?
What did you do about it?
How long did it last? Is it still an issue?
Did it self resolve, did you help it along?
My DD at a point in time hated being RFing and car rides were just buckets of fun, but i never once thought about how i was abusing her and ignoring her needs by making her stay harnessed, so this viewpoint is really new to me and i'm really trying to grasp it. Not defending it, but I do try to understand everyones opinion and I just really have a hard time agreeing with this one.
What the heck do you say to a parent who believes that making a kid CIO in the backseat of a car is abuse and they're clearly upset that there is a law that is "forcing" them to parent their child and they're bitter and defensive? Just give up and realize nothing will change their mind? I'm really trying to learn from this perspective so I can figure out a way to convince parents that it's really an issue of safety and not 'meaningless tortue' to put a kid through on an off chance that they'll be involved in a car crash.
Obviously i know this is a pro car seat board (duuuhhh ) but some of the opinions on the other board just absolutely floored me so i'm looking for some advice. I can't believe there are people defending this behavior, but I really know i'm anal about car seat safety so I realize there is a clear bias on my end.