littleangelfire
Well-known member
I've got an opinion question for you all, I've rather grown to respect your opinions, so thought it'd be a good place to vent something that just happened at our house and find out what you guys think.
My son is 2 years old, will be 3 at the end of July. He's seriously touchy-feely all the time, sleeps in my bed, I believe in attachment parenting. He's been cranky for several days so I knew he was getting sick, today the runny nose showed up to confirm it. So he's been sticking out his tongue, throwing more fits, throwing more stuff, more hitting and such the past few days. We live with my parents. Tonight my mom (grammy) said something to him and he stuck his tongue out at her. He came to be with me for a few minutes and asked if the dog could sleep with him. I told him to go ask Grammy. So he went in there and said (nicely, I swear) 'can I have Shelby please?' And she said something about why should she let him have the dog if he's going to be mean to her and stick his tongue out at her. And told him he needed to come over and be nice to her if he wanted the dog to sleep with him tonight. He proceeded to throw something at her. And she said he couldn't have the dog, that he needed to ask nicely. When he already did! Irritated the dickens outta me b/c though he shouldn't be throwing stuff/sticking his tongue out, that happened 2-3 minutes before, why'd she have to bring it up again? To me you deal with the discipline at the time, not 2 minutes later. So it started a big fit with him being sad/mad b/c he couldn't have the dog. She told him he had to come over and tell her good night and he could have the dog. So I got more irritated. Why isn't asking enough. Ok. So he comes upstairs with me, still crying cuz he wants the dog, and my mom is yelling at me about how I let him do whatever he wants and how I'm letting him act like a spoiled brat. He's upset and I'm holding him, he starts rubbing my bosoms back and forth. I told him 'no, those are mommy's' but he wanted to keep doing it. I figure I want him to stop, but there's no deeper meaning here, he's just looking for a part of me he can pet and be comforted. Then my mom starts jumping case about how I'm letting him, and I quote 'touch me inappropriately'! He's 2! So now I can just see how in her mind, my little baby boy is now someone who needs to be watched around my 8-year-old sister. She hasn't said that, but I wonder.
Anyways - all that to ask these questions:
Do your kids 'touch' yall sometimes in places they shouldn't? I'm sure we all tell them no, but do you consider it a big deal or just misguided affection or comfort seeking? Should I have backed my mom up in making him ask again (cuz I didn't, I felt he was sick and needed some leeway, and he DID ask nicely before she brought up his naughtiness again)?
I'm no worried about his touching me, but I am wondering what other parents think, particularly you other moms that believe in attachment parenting.
THANK YOU in advance for taking the time to read this and answering if you do.
Amy
My son is 2 years old, will be 3 at the end of July. He's seriously touchy-feely all the time, sleeps in my bed, I believe in attachment parenting. He's been cranky for several days so I knew he was getting sick, today the runny nose showed up to confirm it. So he's been sticking out his tongue, throwing more fits, throwing more stuff, more hitting and such the past few days. We live with my parents. Tonight my mom (grammy) said something to him and he stuck his tongue out at her. He came to be with me for a few minutes and asked if the dog could sleep with him. I told him to go ask Grammy. So he went in there and said (nicely, I swear) 'can I have Shelby please?' And she said something about why should she let him have the dog if he's going to be mean to her and stick his tongue out at her. And told him he needed to come over and be nice to her if he wanted the dog to sleep with him tonight. He proceeded to throw something at her. And she said he couldn't have the dog, that he needed to ask nicely. When he already did! Irritated the dickens outta me b/c though he shouldn't be throwing stuff/sticking his tongue out, that happened 2-3 minutes before, why'd she have to bring it up again? To me you deal with the discipline at the time, not 2 minutes later. So it started a big fit with him being sad/mad b/c he couldn't have the dog. She told him he had to come over and tell her good night and he could have the dog. So I got more irritated. Why isn't asking enough. Ok. So he comes upstairs with me, still crying cuz he wants the dog, and my mom is yelling at me about how I let him do whatever he wants and how I'm letting him act like a spoiled brat. He's upset and I'm holding him, he starts rubbing my bosoms back and forth. I told him 'no, those are mommy's' but he wanted to keep doing it. I figure I want him to stop, but there's no deeper meaning here, he's just looking for a part of me he can pet and be comforted. Then my mom starts jumping case about how I'm letting him, and I quote 'touch me inappropriately'! He's 2! So now I can just see how in her mind, my little baby boy is now someone who needs to be watched around my 8-year-old sister. She hasn't said that, but I wonder.
Anyways - all that to ask these questions:
Do your kids 'touch' yall sometimes in places they shouldn't? I'm sure we all tell them no, but do you consider it a big deal or just misguided affection or comfort seeking? Should I have backed my mom up in making him ask again (cuz I didn't, I felt he was sick and needed some leeway, and he DID ask nicely before she brought up his naughtiness again)?
I'm no worried about his touching me, but I am wondering what other parents think, particularly you other moms that believe in attachment parenting.
THANK YOU in advance for taking the time to read this and answering if you do.
Amy