turtlemama
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So in Dh's truck we have a Maestro for the occasional times that he drops DD off to school. He periodically has to take it out to allow for picking up coworkers and such. So out of curiosity while we were outside the other day I decided to check the install. He knows I'm a freak about this, he knows I'm gonna check it at some point, so I do and find that there is A FOOT OF SLACK in the seatbelt. The lap portion had all been pulled out through the opposite side so it was just hanging there, but the other side where the latchplate was was still buckled and tight. I think he pulled on the lap belt instead of the shoulder belt, got it tight on one side and didn't bother to check and see if the whole car seat was tight. When I checked it, I easily pushed it over to the side by a good 6-8 inches. DD had just rode in that seat that day. So I told him he needed to make sure it didn't move more than one inch in any direction and that he needed to pull on the shoulder belt, not the lap belt, and to let me know when he does installs from now on.
Oh and I could pinch a good inch to inch and a half of slack in the harness too, so there was that. So I had to tell him AGAIN to do a pinch test and make sure there is not slack in the harness.
So the reason for this post is, he got mad at me! He got mad in the first place because I checked the car seat to begin with, and then got more mad because I told him it wasn't in right. He doesn't think 6 inches of slack is going to hurt anything and said if there was an accident, he would see it in time to put his arm in front of dd to slow her forward movement
I told him that his arm would be broken by her forward movement, if he even made it in the split second of time it would take for another car to hit. He makes me so frustrated with all of this. He doesn't care at all about keeping the kids safe and his whole justification is that he was safe as a kid riding around in nothing at 4 years old. That same stupid, idiotic argument that everyone who has never been in an accident uses and says they "survived."
He relies on me to do all of the installing and checking of harnesses and refuses to listen when I try and show him how to do any of it and says "I don't need to learn this stupid stuff if I have you to do it for me."
UGH!
I'm going home to Oklahoma for my sister's graduation from the 12th-16th. Who is going to check harnesses for him then?
Oh and I could pinch a good inch to inch and a half of slack in the harness too, so there was that. So I had to tell him AGAIN to do a pinch test and make sure there is not slack in the harness.
So the reason for this post is, he got mad at me! He got mad in the first place because I checked the car seat to begin with, and then got more mad because I told him it wasn't in right. He doesn't think 6 inches of slack is going to hurt anything and said if there was an accident, he would see it in time to put his arm in front of dd to slow her forward movement
I told him that his arm would be broken by her forward movement, if he even made it in the split second of time it would take for another car to hit. He makes me so frustrated with all of this. He doesn't care at all about keeping the kids safe and his whole justification is that he was safe as a kid riding around in nothing at 4 years old. That same stupid, idiotic argument that everyone who has never been in an accident uses and says they "survived."
He relies on me to do all of the installing and checking of harnesses and refuses to listen when I try and show him how to do any of it and says "I don't need to learn this stupid stuff if I have you to do it for me."
UGH!
I'm going home to Oklahoma for my sister's graduation from the 12th-16th. Who is going to check harnesses for him then?