Hi there,
Your post hits home! 6 kids in a van, all in seats, is doable! I want all my kids in seats to age 12 if they fit, and we want 6 kids. I will only consider high-back boosters.
We just bought a 2011 Odyssey (8 seats; tether on every seat; I think Latch too) because we have almost 4 kids and want 6. I planned our car seat configurations for the next 12 years (and added two kids not even alive yet). Husband asked if we needed to decide now, and I said YES because our carseat purchases depend on it. So did the van.
Currently we have two RF seats side by side in the second row (Advocate with huge side wings for toddler is behind passenger, and Chaperone for infant in the middle). I needed easy access to these little ones. The empty seat is open so kids can climb in the back. In our van, the seats pull outward so you can get 3 in a row easily of any seat in the second row. In the back are two FF Radians for 3 and 4-year-old, but nothing in the middle. Only another Radian would fit in that middle. Maybe the Parkway? I have not tried.
So, here is my trick for the whole van for 6 kids. Buy and put a Sunshine Kids Radian on every seat in the third row (if you have kids who fit in these; FF or RF), and the second row middle seat. You can put any seat for kids 0 to 12 on the two sides middle row, so you're good there! For the third row, the only booster I know (but there could be more) that claims to do 3 in a row is a Britax Parkway SLG (maybe other models of this too?). I am hoping something better comes out b/c our Parkway (arrived today for aunt's car) did not impress. It's a plastic thing, like many others. Again I just looked at high-back.
The Sunshine Kids steel Monterrey is what I want but those won't work in the third row, 3 across with anything that I know of (I asked the company).
Speaking only as to what's available in 2011, if the kids were all older we'd have 3 Britax Parkways across the back, which can last to 63 inches or 120 lbs. A Monterrey on each side of the second row, and the middle seat would be a Parkway (unless the Monterrey fits on this jump seat. It might).
The only issue you are faced with is getting people in and out of the back if EVERY seat is taken. Might involve acrobatics. We are not there yet, but you do what you have to do. Kids can climb, after all.
You note you have a child who is 12. Is that child still in a seat? If not, you have more options!!! Our kids are all close together. You truly might have to use all three seats in second row for car seats, so all your kids can stay in car seats/boosters who need them. That might mean any child not still in a seat does have to climb to the back, or even if they have to get into boosters. I know, couldn't van makers have put a door in in the back?