Does your husband/wife support erf?

pepsicola · Oct 25, 2010

My husband goes along with it because I am so insistant, but really he thinks 1/20 is just fine, like the rest of the family. But it's not an issue with him, we just rf our daughter and we don't really talk about it.

I'm just wondering what most people's situtation is like. Does your significant other support extended rear facing or do they just go along with it?

ketchupqueen · Oct 25, 2010

Yes, my husband has seen the research (I've shown him) and understands why it's important. To the point that he shares info on it with his friends if he notices they've turned their 1 year old around, or sees small 2 and 3 year olds forward facing (or yikes, in boosters) and is like, "That kid really ought to be rear-facing." To the point that he supports me buying seats to help family members and close friends ERF their kids.

carseatcoach · Oct 25, 2010

Somewhere inbetween. He trusted me to do the research and make the decisions, but wasn't interested in it himself and I wouldn't exactly say he was a "supporter". (Applies both to ERF and extended harnessing.)

skitle1802 · Oct 25, 2010

My DH doesn't care if I erf and will install the seats rf only because he wouldn't want to change the harness straps (though he never installs seats).

tiggercat · Oct 25, 2010

He is supportive to a point, like he was happy we kept Megan RF to 2 and 30lbs (RF limit of CDN seats at the time) but thought I'd lost my mind when I let her ride RF in the XTSL at 5 yrs old. He has no problem with us ERF Sam, it is normal to him. I hear him mention to other people about ERF and how it is much safer.

Mommy0608 · Oct 25, 2010

He won't come out and say it, but he does support it.

smackeen · Oct 25, 2010

He is supportive to a point. He definitely would not like me to buy a new seat to RF past the TF.

He was pretty good though when I turned our 2.5 yr old rf'ing again in my van. In DH car he rides ff'ing. But again, would not buy another seat for his car.

soccer_widow · Oct 25, 2010

He doesn't really care. I think he understands that it is safer, but it is just one of the things where he has turned over complete control to me. DH has never installed a seat himself, and probably wouldn't have the slightest clue where to start. This is why it always surprises me when people talk about their DH opposing RF, harnessing, etc. My DH really has zero interest in the car seat situation in our cars.

mommyof3tx · Oct 25, 2010

He is supportive, he understands why it's safer and has seen the videos and all that, but if it were to him I think he'd say 2-2.5yrs flip FF...not to limits, but he's supportive of whatever I feel is best

christineka · Oct 25, 2010

Dh believes me that it's safer. He doesn't look at the research. He just thinks its uncomfortable for the kid. He doesn't fight about it. He might if my kid said she didn't want to rf, but I insisted.

mumof2 · Oct 25, 2010

mine is pretty supportive...on another forum I mentioned about a mum wanting to forward face her 6 month old 11lb baby,.,he was like why are parentrs in a hurry to forward face their child rearfacing is much safer

he knows how I feel about rearfacing and knows I want both our children rearfacing for as long as possible

abigaylebelle · Oct 25, 2010

My husband supports erf 100%. A friend lost a 3 year old in a crash so we never have any debates about how to best restrain our own child.

moxy · Oct 25, 2010

He pretty much just goes along with whatever I say. He knows I've done the research and knows I'll never shut up about the studies/facts if he says anything negative about rf'ing in general. When his family questions him about it he tells them to ask me.
He did give in and agree to buying a radian to rf our son for longer even though we'd only just bought a true fit 6 months before.
He thinks I'm nuts when I tell him G(and little something as well) will rf until 4 at least and at that point he'll get to make the choice himself to ff or rf. But then again, when I mention rf'ing until 4 to anyone they all give me the

look...

jsmom · Oct 25, 2010

DH is supportive. We dont really RF anymore except for long trips now though. I was going to sell my Radian because we are getting two new seats and he suggested we keep it for any future trips or times that we want her to RF.

aeormsby · Oct 25, 2010

DH doesn't really care (and doesn't feel like researching it since he knows I have). Honestly, I don't even know if he realizes that kids could turn FF at 1yr/20lb. I think I did tell him that if anyone asked about it (back when DD was about 18months or so) that he could just tell them she's still RF because it's safer. I even tried to show him something once and he didn't want to see it, not interested.

But, I was telling him that we might get a HBB for DD to start using once in a while in his truck next spring, his first comment was 'really? she's big enough for that?' (she's almost 5 now), And I was telling him about the Parkway with the SG & latch and how the extra strap for the SG would work and he thought that was cool.

lovinwaves · Oct 25, 2010

Yes, so much so that he has told several of his friends with new babies or toddlers about it. I've heard him actually "preach" to them about it. LOL

wavegal · Oct 25, 2010

My DH mostly does, he says he thinks Lucas is uncomfortable in his car and also says hes starting to have a difficult time getting him in the Como we have in there, I told him hes not allowed to turn him until atleast 2 and am considering a different seat for his car even though he'll be mad, he doesn't argue with me in my car, so rf to the limit of the seats in mine.

msg221 · Oct 25, 2010

My DH has been very supportive of ERF the godchildren and grandchildren. He feels as I do that we will do everything we can to keep the kids in our care as safe as possible.

He never said anything when I bought car seats to keep in our car for the kids and never said anything each time I sold and then bought a new seat! He understands that I am serious when it comes to car safety and told me how impressed he was about me becoming certified as a CPST. Now if I could just get him to spend some time with me to learn how to install their seats . . .

AmieRubyJonah · Oct 25, 2010

More so than I am!

He didn't use to have an opinion either way, but I showed him a fee YouTube clips and then he didn't his own research. Now he flat out refuses to even discuss turning him before 3!

He gives his sisters lectures about car safety, and even stopped some ransoms in the street the other day to tell them they had installed their seat wrong!

I love him!

Melizerd · Oct 25, 2010

Yes! He says he knows me and trusts that I've done research. He's even mentioned it to other people that we did it so that they could see real people doing it

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