I'm at a loss what to do...I really want to loan my BIL one of my seats for my nephew to use, but its a somewhat complicated situation (isn't it always with family?!?!?)
Nephew is 2.5 years old and riding in an old seat that expired in December. The fit for him is definitely less than ideal as well. I've commented to BIL numerous times that it needs replaced, etc, and always get the same standard response that "it's fine, etc etc etc"
In the past, I've offered to let him borrow one of my seats until he gets a new one, but he's always flat out turned me down.
I was complaining to DH the other day that its really bothering me that my nephew is still riding in this seat for a number of reasons:
1. Nephew is 28 mos, probably just at/over 30 lbs, and short for his age. My biggest concern though is that his head his HUGE for his other stats...it terrifies me that he is FF and has been since 12 mos. This child is really one that needs to be still RF to prevent internal decapitation in a crash -- but I've tried suggesting that (and only let him ride RF in my vehicle) and its pretty much a no-go.
2. BIL is divorced...his ex would have a SPECTACULAR custody case against him if he were in a crash and nephew was injured at all in that seat. Family keeps telling me not to worry about it because BIL and ex get along great...they just don't see that that can change in a heartbeat when a child is injured.
DH told me that BIL has indicated to him that he WOULD use one of my seats if I loan it to him...but ONLY if he can use it for the entire time until nephew outgrows it (instead of a couple of months I was envisioning while he gathers funds to replace his current seat) -- and therein lies the problem.
I have the following seats...2 Nautis, MyRide, TF, Avenue, Radian XTSL, BabyTrend FlexLoc, 2 Dorel booster seats (which my DS1 uses only when absolutely necessary, as I don't like the fit of them).
I was originally going to let him borrow one of the Nautis and just switch the other one back and forth between our two cars for DS1 since he's booster training in it...but it will be forever and a day before nephew outgrows a Nauti, and I will need/want it back before then. Also, with DD being born tomorrow, I really don't want to give up one of our RF seats for an extended period of time because I'm not sure exactly which seats I'll need to do our 3 across in our Impala for our own three children...and what seats will fit her best. I'd be much more open to giving him a RF seat (and would in a heartbeat) if he would RF nephew, but he absolutely won't.
WWYD?? Give him a seat, knowing you won't get it back for at least a year (or if you do, it'll create very hard feelings -- this of course is my favorite BIL...it'd be so much easier if it wasn't!!), and it'll make it harder (if not impossible) to transport all 3 of your own children in one of your vehicles? Or just keep pushing him to get a new seat of his own while nephew continues to ride in current seat? If I had the funds, I'd just buy a new seat for him to borrow...but that's just not an option right now...
Nephew is 2.5 years old and riding in an old seat that expired in December. The fit for him is definitely less than ideal as well. I've commented to BIL numerous times that it needs replaced, etc, and always get the same standard response that "it's fine, etc etc etc"
In the past, I've offered to let him borrow one of my seats until he gets a new one, but he's always flat out turned me down.
I was complaining to DH the other day that its really bothering me that my nephew is still riding in this seat for a number of reasons:
1. Nephew is 28 mos, probably just at/over 30 lbs, and short for his age. My biggest concern though is that his head his HUGE for his other stats...it terrifies me that he is FF and has been since 12 mos. This child is really one that needs to be still RF to prevent internal decapitation in a crash -- but I've tried suggesting that (and only let him ride RF in my vehicle) and its pretty much a no-go.
2. BIL is divorced...his ex would have a SPECTACULAR custody case against him if he were in a crash and nephew was injured at all in that seat. Family keeps telling me not to worry about it because BIL and ex get along great...they just don't see that that can change in a heartbeat when a child is injured.
DH told me that BIL has indicated to him that he WOULD use one of my seats if I loan it to him...but ONLY if he can use it for the entire time until nephew outgrows it (instead of a couple of months I was envisioning while he gathers funds to replace his current seat) -- and therein lies the problem.
I have the following seats...2 Nautis, MyRide, TF, Avenue, Radian XTSL, BabyTrend FlexLoc, 2 Dorel booster seats (which my DS1 uses only when absolutely necessary, as I don't like the fit of them).
I was originally going to let him borrow one of the Nautis and just switch the other one back and forth between our two cars for DS1 since he's booster training in it...but it will be forever and a day before nephew outgrows a Nauti, and I will need/want it back before then. Also, with DD being born tomorrow, I really don't want to give up one of our RF seats for an extended period of time because I'm not sure exactly which seats I'll need to do our 3 across in our Impala for our own three children...and what seats will fit her best. I'd be much more open to giving him a RF seat (and would in a heartbeat) if he would RF nephew, but he absolutely won't.
WWYD?? Give him a seat, knowing you won't get it back for at least a year (or if you do, it'll create very hard feelings -- this of course is my favorite BIL...it'd be so much easier if it wasn't!!), and it'll make it harder (if not impossible) to transport all 3 of your own children in one of your vehicles? Or just keep pushing him to get a new seat of his own while nephew continues to ride in current seat? If I had the funds, I'd just buy a new seat for him to borrow...but that's just not an option right now...