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    Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Long story short, our 3 across leaves my ODD to fend for herself at the moment. She is outboard FF and YDD is RF centre. YDD's leg is the *perfect* length to kick ODD directly in the face!!!!

    Has anyone had success in dealing with this behaviour. All we have right now is taking away her pacifier and telling ODD to try to block her foot. On rare occasions, we have told ODD to pinch YDD's foot (reaaallly rare, like when all 3 are screaming and we're an hour from home).

    Please tell me she'll outgrow this behaviour! Moving them around is not an option!

    ETA: we do try to distract and keep them busy with activities/toys, but it doesn't stop the initial unsuspected blow
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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    I jammed a piece of cardboard between the two seats until the younger, instigating child got over it.

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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    I turned my dd back to rfing. That worked, but there came a point when she really didn't want to be rfing any more. I staggered the seats. (I know you can't do that, though, sorry.) What helped immensely, was a different seat and staggering seats. The true fit has big sides, so ds can't kick out of it very well. I tried the divider thing, but ds just knocked it over while dd3 screamed and cried about how he wasn't supposed to move the divider.
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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Quote Originally Posted by christineka View Post
    I tried the divider thing, but ds just knocked it over while dd3 screamed and cried about how he wasn't supposed to move the divider.

    ha ha sounds like my kids. I had the same problem, but I dont HAVE to have them next to each other so I separated them. However, I did learn that having the right combination of seats helps. Mine are in radians and can reach each other easily, but I tried putting one in a myride and they couldn't see each other OR reach each other. And it fit perfectly next to a radian (both RF though).

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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Quote Originally Posted by christineka View Post
    I tried the divider thing, but ds just knocked it over while dd3 screamed and cried about how he wasn't supposed to move the divider.
    OMG that is hilarious! My kids would soooooo do that! Besides, I think they would be upset that they couldn't see eachother - then YDD would turn the other way and pick on DS

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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    I assume you can't move YDD's seat outboard and put baby center, with ODD in the other outboard? I would be a pain to put the carrier into the base, but maybe worth a shot until she got over this stage?
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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Quote Originally Posted by NannyMae View Post
    I assume you can't move YDD's seat outboard and put baby center, with ODD in the other outboard? I would be a pain to put the carrier into the base, but maybe worth a shot until she got over this stage?
    I wish! We had a really difficult time getting our 3 across as it is in our Rondo ... the way we have it is the only way they'll fit with 2 RF seats

    Maybe I'll try the cardboard anyways and see how it goes - any tips for size and placement?
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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    I am sorry!

    One day ds will be ffing and dd will be rfing and he'll scream that she is kicking him and I will be laughing because it will be payback. Poor girl gets put through h3ll by him. He hits her w/ toys, etc. We have to take his shoes off in the car b/c even though there is space bw them he throws the shoes across the car at her if he can. When she falss asleep he yells "Wake UP! Wake UP Baubrey, WAKE UP!" and throws what he can at her. That really ticks me off and I will pull over.
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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    I'd probably have just tied YDD's shoes together until she learned not to kick.

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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Quote Originally Posted by tarabelle View Post
    i'd probably have just tied ydd's shoes together until she learned not to kick.


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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Quote Originally Posted by tarabelle View Post
    I'd probably have just tied YDD's shoes together until she learned not to kick.
    VERY tempting! I guess that would also solve the problem of her taking her shoes off and pitching them at her sister or up in the air! Might need some rigging with sandals though

    Having naked feet doesn't help ... but it does annoy mommy when I have to try and find her shoes if I don't take them off first (and socks too in other seasons)!
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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Is there a toy/playset she likes that has multiple (maybe 3) pieces? With A & C they like playing with small toys- small puppies, action figures, counting bears, whatever. If I want them to behave I will give them the toys, and make a deal that everytime they break a rule they are fined 1 toy. The toys serve as a constant reminder to behave as well as a reward for behaving. Might be worth a try?
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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Quote Originally Posted by CelticLabyrinth View Post
    Is there a toy/playset she likes that has multiple (maybe 3) pieces? With A & C they like playing with small toys- small puppies, action figures, counting bears, whatever. If I want them to behave I will give them the toys, and make a deal that everytime they break a rule they are fined 1 toy. The toys serve as a constant reminder to behave as well as a reward for behaving. Might be worth a try?
    Maybe I can think of something. Generally though, they trade toys back and forth and YDD loses interest really quickly! I'm sure they would all be lost in between the seats ... never to be found again

    Besides, my fear is that DS will get ahold of one and choke on it Maybe I can try that now while he's still a little too young to put a toy into his mouth and hope that she outgrows this phase by then!
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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    That's why my kids are no longer next to eachother in my DH's car. Now the two RFers are next to eachother

    In my car it was captians seats so they couldn't reach eachother and now E's in the 3rd row so our new "problem" is E putting her feet in S's face (on top of the seat S's seat is installed on) and the oh so popular "STOP LOOKING AT ME EVEWYN! STOP BREATHING ON ME EVEWYN!!!"

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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Quote Originally Posted by fyrfightermomma View Post
    That's why my kids are no longer next to eachother in my DH's car. Now the two RFers are next to eachother

    In my car it was captians seats so they couldn't reach eachother and now E's in the 3rd row so our new "problem" is E putting her feet in S's face (on top of the seat S's seat is installed on) and the oh so popular "STOP LOOKING AT ME EVEWYN! STOP BREATHING ON ME EVEWYN!!!"
    This is exactly why I lasted 2 months with 3 kids in the back of our car before begging dh for a minivan. Also it's why I always recommend a minivan when people are buying cars because their on their 3rd kiddo!
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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Quote Originally Posted by cookie123 View Post
    This is exactly why I lasted 2 months with 3 kids in the back of our car before begging dh for a minivan. Also it's why I always recommend a minivan when people are buying cars because their on their 3rd kiddo!


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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    The sunshades made by Axius, they twist and fold into a circle. If the kids are having issues with one another, I take one of them (there are 2 for the windshield) and stuff it between the seats. Semi flexible, lightweight, outer trim holds its shape.
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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    At Walmart they sell these cheap $15 fold up dog kennels. They fold into a circle and I have the medium size one that holds dogs up to 60lbs. Anyways I cut it into 4 pieces to shove in between the seats. It holds it's shape, fits between seats nicely and most seats if you jam it between them good when the older child kicks they can't kick it hard enough to kick the rear facing child. Haven't had a single situation where it didn't work. BTW: It also works if you use the mesh part so they can see each other and to allow for air circulation in the summer time.

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    Looks like this between the seats (This isn't the one I cut up, but you can see where the mesh part would be in 2 of the sides when you do cut it up). This is between the pkwy sg and a radian.

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    Re: Ugh - stop kicking her in the face!

    Quote Originally Posted by MarathonMama View Post
    VERY tempting! I guess that would also solve the problem of her taking her shoes off and pitching them at her sister or up in the air! Might need some rigging with sandals though
    Zip ties.

    You'll need to keep scissors on hand, though.
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